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Question for non- CIO moms

Posted by on Apr. 1, 2010 at 11:31 PM
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I am a new mother and I have chosen to not use the CIO method.  (No judgement to anyone who does use CIO, I just don't).  My 7 month old daughter's sleeping habits are really bad.  My mother, sister in law and DH keep trying to tell me to just put the baby in the crib and let her CIO, they said it is only for three days and then she will be able to put herself to sleep.  I keep hearing how I am spoiling her, and I can see that I kinda am.  Don't get me wrong,  I am a firm believer in you can't spoil a kid with affection, but I can see how she already has me wrapped around her finger when it comes to bedtime.  She doesn't sleep through the night, and she doesn't wake up hungry.   I read that they wake up out of habit and dependency at this stage in their life.  To all non CIO moms:  How do you get your LO to sleep and to sleep all night long?  Any advice is welcome.  Thanks. 

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rg87
by on Apr. 1, 2010 at 11:33 PM

I don't really have any advice, my kids just slept through the night around 7 months old or so.

MommaToSam
by on Apr. 1, 2010 at 11:35 PM

 It was all bout routine for us. It took a full week of having the same routine from 5pm on, but it worked.

MonroeLoves82
by on Apr. 1, 2010 at 11:35 PM

You cannot spoil a baby. I never used CIO with either of my children and they are perfectly adjusted kids.  My 14 month old still doesn't sleep through the night, and my oldest slept through the night at 4 months old. Some babies just aren't the best sleepers.

ready_for2
by on Apr. 1, 2010 at 11:37 PM

i coslept, and he would sleep amazing!!!

eventually i would rock him to sleep then put him in his crib, but if he woke up at night iw ould just put him in bed with me and he would go right back to sleep and sleep the rest of the night!

it did make for a bad habit now though, he is 17 months and im having trouble getting him into his own bed....but it was sooooo worth it all those months that we both got amazing sleep!

SuperChica1982
by on Apr. 1, 2010 at 11:41 PM


Quoting MonroeLoves82:

You cannot spoil a baby. I never used CIO with either of my children and they are perfectly adjusted kids.  My 14 month old still doesn't sleep through the night, and my oldest slept through the night at 4 months old. Some babies just aren't the best sleepers.


I agree with the mindset that you cannot spoil a baby.  I love giving her the attention and affection she deserves, but my family keeps telling me I am spoiling her and making all these mistakes and I am just trying to do what I feel is best.  It is stressful that she is not sleeping, but I am kind of used to it by now.  Hell, when I get four hours of sleep straight, I feel like I over slept lol.

zoiezmom
by on Apr. 1, 2010 at 11:41 PM
We cosleep
erinsmom1964
by Ruby Member on Apr. 1, 2010 at 11:44 PM


Quoting MommaToSam:

 It was all bout routine for us. It took a full week of having the same routine from 5pm on, but it worked.


I agree with this.  i have four children and have never used CIO don't believe in it.  Many studies from prestigious Universities and child specialists show what happens in a childs brain when left to cry. 

What I did was when they woke up go in the room tuck them back in, turn on music box, and tell them night night in a very low tone.  I tried never to pick them up but if they get more upset then I would pick them up pat their backs bounce them and lay them back down.  keep doing it over and over until they are quiet then leave.  once they realize thats all there is the waking will become less and less.  Routine.  Let your children KNOW what to expect from you.  Also as PP said children sleep through the night at different ages for different reasons.  Erin didn't do it until 8 months old now she sleeps 12 hours almost every night.  it is rare she wakes anymore but when she does I am there.  My eldest slept all night at 6 weeks....freaked me out.  i was always worried he was dead  LOL

Carrie 45 mom of 4-- DS 24, DS 20, DS 19, and DD 11 months old. 

jaiwheeler
by on Apr. 1, 2010 at 11:47 PM

My oldest daughter just started on her own, my youngest did not!!! 7 months is still a little to young to be sleeping threw the night(some of us are lucky and they do and some are not and they dont) My youngest daughter slept with me, so I just layed with her till she fell asleep and by the time she woke up in the middle of the night i was in bed with her and she just comfort nursed herself back to sleep. There is no secret method to making a baby sleep threw the night or alone. Babies instinctivley want to be with their care giver all the time, even while they should be sleeping.

 

I was given some info when my daughter turned 2 about going to bed alone, there are a few methods, 1 is to let her cio... couldn't do it, I tried and I wound up in tears. The 2nd is to do it gently, keep going into the babies room and telling her she is okay until she falls asleep. The 3rd is to well basically suck it up and get threw it till the baby is old enough to sleep on their own!!! Anyway you do it she is your daughter, and your her mom, and you know best!!!

 

Personally I would not allow my baby to cry it out, it just seems mean and there is scientific proof that is damaging to your child. It sends signals to their brains and yada yada yada I wont go into one of my attatchment parenting rants! But do whats best for HER!!!

RissaBusch
by on Apr. 1, 2010 at 11:49 PM

 We developed a strong bedtime routine.  We made bed time into a nice, calming experience.  We rocked my daughter to sleep for almost the first year.  Then she just got so squirmy.  We took that as a sign that she was ready to put herself to sleep! Voila! No problems. 

She's 19 months now and bedtime is a breeze.  No fighting, no crying.  We also always got up with her in the night for however long she was up.  We just assured her that it was still bedtime and that mommy is right here.


jaiwheeler
by on Apr. 1, 2010 at 11:50 PM

Do you sleep with her??? Just curious? It could solve a million of your problems! She will probably start to sleep longer and better for you! Which equals more sleep for momma!!!

Quoting SuperChica1982:


Quoting MonroeLoves82:

You cannot spoil a baby. I never used CIO with either of my children and they are perfectly adjusted kids.  My 14 month old still doesn't sleep through the night, and my oldest slept through the night at 4 months old. Some babies just aren't the best sleepers.


I agree with the mindset that you cannot spoil a baby.  I love giving her the attention and affection she deserves, but my family keeps telling me I am spoiling her and making all these mistakes and I am just trying to do what I feel is best.  It is stressful that she is not sleeping, but I am kind of used to it by now.  Hell, when I get four hours of sleep straight, I feel like I over slept lol.


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