My best-friend recently lost her baby (March 01). He was born with the cord around his neck, and didn't make it. What I need to know is if I should get her something, not necessarily for mothers day but to acknowledge the fact that she is a mother even though her arms are empty. I want to get her a birthstone ring with his name engraved on it. I do NOT want to give it to her on mothers day, because I definately think this would be too much for her to handle, just as a remembrance of him. Should I get/make a card of some kind to go along with it? I'd liek teh opinion of women who have lost a child. she was full term and this would have been her first baby.