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my husband won't have sex with me :( (sad vent)

Posted by on May. 26, 2010 at 7:56 AM
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 he says he's "tired" but then he's up til midnight looking at porn.

he hasn't gone down in like a month because i smell "too pregnant".

even though i've totaly been putting the moves on him in bed  he just rolls over and ignores me.

when he gets home from work we don't even talk any more he just goes to the garage to work on "projects".

so great now i feel like total crap, i felt bad about being fat cause of the weight i had gained with my first pregnancy and now that my second pregnancy is coming to and end my face has like freaking doubled in size, and all the weight i had managed to lose i've gained back. he says he's still attracted to me and the other day when i was complaining about the weight i had gained and how unattractive i was he said no "no momma, your beatiful and not fat, just pregnant" i'm holding on to those tiny words trying not to be totally pissed and heart broken but you know what they say ... actions speak louder than words.

by on May. 26, 2010 at 7:56 AM
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chiamom123
by on May. 26, 2010 at 7:59 AM

hun if you are near the end of the pregnancy could he just have issues with the baby being so big and being right there. that is a problem a lot of men have.

dumdscreenname
by on May. 26, 2010 at 8:03 AM

 mabe i don't even know anymore, if it is i wish he would just tell me. i'm in the middle of a horrible pity party right now so i don't know anything :(

Quoting chiamom123:

hun if you are near the end of the pregnancy could he just have issues with the baby being so big and being right there. that is a problem a lot of men have.

 

Shaylyn318
by on May. 26, 2010 at 8:09 AM

Tell him how you feel. He may not even know. Men are not very observant.


turtletastik
by on May. 26, 2010 at 8:12 AM

 I used to ravage my ex husband when we were pregnant, my hormones had me wanting sex all the time. Once I started getting bigger he felt like he was going to poke the baby or traumatize the baby somehow and I made him get over it really quickly.

mstnbecki
by on May. 26, 2010 at 8:14 AM

 My SO wouldn't have sex with me when I was pregnant, he really thought he would hurt the baby, there are alot of men that think that, maybe he feels he will hurt you or the baby.

 

kimsamomof3
by Silver Member on May. 26, 2010 at 8:15 AM

I agree with what all the other ladies have said. My DH was the same way, he didnt want to have sex very often while I was pregnant. Once our kids were born we went back to normal.

mysticalmalissa
by Ruby Member on May. 26, 2010 at 8:19 AM

 Always remember, men suck at mind reading.

Tell him how you feel.

-xoxo-
by on May. 26, 2010 at 8:21 AM

Tell him how you feel...or leave a message that will pop up when he turns on his computer that says, "I'm in bed wanting you and instead of touching your own wife, you're on here touching yourself." I think he'd get the point. 

BrownEyedGirl86
by Platinum Member on May. 26, 2010 at 8:22 AM

oh hun I am sorry - but lay it out for him - no bullshit - men sometimes just don't get it! he may not even realize what he is diong and how he is coming across - and I agree w/what another mom said - maybe he is uncomforatble with you being due soon - I know at the end of my preg my sex drive sky rocketed!

dumdscreenname
by on May. 26, 2010 at 8:22 AM

 i have but he just says he's tired but like i said if he's so tired what is he doing up till midnight lokking at porn- skinny girl porn to :(

Quoting mysticalmalissa:

 Always remember, men suck at mind reading.

Tell him how you feel.

 

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