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The difference between the two..

Posted by on Jun. 3, 2010 at 2:26 PM
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My dh came out a couple of weeks ago and told me he masturbates and watches porn a lot on the net. He says its an addiction and to turn the internet off. I think its a huge problem that affecting our marriage, but dont know about an addiction...anyway...He sometimes does it in the bathroom while Im home, but mostly when Im gone somewhere. Our sex life isnt that great, due to him not being in the mood, depression and the meds. So Im wondering..How can you masturbate and not be in the mood to have sex? He says its not me, or the pregnancy and so on (maybe it is he just cant point it out). What are the views on this? 

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isra1986
by on Jun. 3, 2010 at 2:28 PM

That is odd. Maybe he has a problem and is doing it too much.

I am not Palestinian (although I married into the culture). I am human. I
believe in human rights for everyone. Some people may think that this
is not "our" fight, but it is to me, because no matter their religion or cultural background, they are our brothers and sisters in humanity.  I will protest right along side everyone in Palestine. I may not be able to change the world, but I can
die trying.

BlessedToBMommy
by on Jun. 3, 2010 at 2:28 PM

ouch! Thats just not good! I mean dh and I openly take care of ourselves if need be, but its when the other isnt home, or together as foreplay, no porn needed though, and we certainly wouldnt do it instead of eachother, sounds like something deeper is going on momma I'm sorry:(

_mimimosley_
by Platinum Member on Jun. 3, 2010 at 2:29 PM

I don't care if my man watches porn, he's a pervert so i understand, but if it deprived our alone time together or our sex life wasn't good then I'd be pissed

i.heart.rachel
by on Jun. 3, 2010 at 2:29 PM

I don't really understand the question.

czchtaclo13
by Bronze Member on Jun. 3, 2010 at 2:31 PM

How can you masturbate and not be in the mood to have sex?

Quoting i.heart.rachel:

I don't really understand the question.

He turns you down for sex...turns around and masturbates...

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jaysonsmommy15
by on Jun. 3, 2010 at 2:31 PM

 I dont care what my dh does for himself as long as it doesn't interfere with out sex life.

isra1986
by on Jun. 3, 2010 at 2:31 PM

He DH says he has no sex drive and won't have sex with her because of depression and meds, but her masterbates to porn.
She doesn't understand why he can not do her, but can do himself to the porn!

Quoting i.heart.rachel:

I don't really understand the question.


I am not Palestinian (although I married into the culture). I am human. I
believe in human rights for everyone. Some people may think that this
is not "our" fight, but it is to me, because no matter their religion or cultural background, they are our brothers and sisters in humanity.  I will protest right along side everyone in Palestine. I may not be able to change the world, but I can
die trying.

jaysonsmommy15
by on Jun. 3, 2010 at 2:32 PM

 Maybe since you at the end of your pregnancy he is alittle turned off or does not want to hurt you? He may not want to tell you this because he does not want to hurt your feelings.

How was you sex life before pregnancy and at the beginning of the pregnancy?

Quoting czchtaclo13:

How can you masturbate and not be in the mood to have sex?

Quoting i.heart.rachel:

I don't really understand the question.

He turns you down for sex...turns around and masturbates...

 

czchtaclo13
by Bronze Member on Jun. 3, 2010 at 2:32 PM

Thank you...glad someone got it lol

Quoting isra1986:

He DH says he has no sex drive and won't have sex with her because of depression and meds, but her masterbates to porn.
She doesn't understand why he can not do her, but can do himself to the porn!

Quoting i.heart.rachel:

I don't really understand the question.



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mysticalmalissa
by Ruby Member on Jun. 3, 2010 at 2:33 PM

 He may be doing it as a stress reliever?  

I am your average everyday, former upstate NY'er, now living in TN....Harley riding ,crazy,pro-porn,strip club,Hooters for husbands type of wife and older mom of 3 boys.


                      
                      BE YOURSELF, EVERYONE ELSE IS TAKEN =)

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