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What if this happened to you? Updated.......Not So Hypothetical!

Posted by on Jun. 3, 2010 at 11:35 PM
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Here is a hypathetical question for you all........

What if you were a college graduate, had a very good professional job,  was a confident, social person who felt like they were oin top of everyting.  Then what if due to Tramatic Brain Injury you suddenly could not process information well, could not remember things anymore, could no longer do simple math, struggled to read, and had trouble conversing with others due to not being a ble to understand or formulate what you wanted to say.   What would you do?  How would you feel? How would you cope?  Where would you go from there?

UPDATE!

Thanks for the responses.  The hypothetical ? happened to me.  I have fought like hell and can now type and read some-not books or informational articles.  I can onl read 1 to 2 paragraphs before i can not focus anymore.  I have lost most of my short term memory.  If someone tells me a date, 2 minutes lates it is gone.  I have lost a lot of the memories of the last 3 yrs which includes a lot of memories with my kids.  I had an awesome job, that I just left cus I can not do it anymore do to my processing issues.  I have trouble talking with people in oral conversations ( I do better typing actaully cus I do not have to come up with a response so quickly)  So, socially I have lost most of my friends cus it is hard to even converse with them.  And I struggle to organize everything. 


The reason I asked the hypethetical ? was that I am so tired of people telling me how I should feel and cope with this.  Without the emotions of knowing this actually hgappened to someone, I wanted to hear how you think it would make you feel.


I have worked very hard to get where I am, and continue to work to get better.  But, according to my OT and Speech therapist I have come as far as they expect me to based on the TBI damage that is perminent.  I have applied for SSI but who knows how long that will be .   But, even that will not "fix" things. I try to be upbeat.  But, I am depressed, frusterated and feel alone with it.  And everyone tells me I should just be happy I am here and that I did not die during my illness and coma.  And while I agree I am lucky to be here.  I feel unless you are in the situation you can not tell me how to feel.


Anyway thanks for the perspective!  It was helpful!

I am Kelly, 32 yr old Mom of 4 Girls!  Caitlin 5 yrs, Lilly 3 yrs, Molly born 6/19/09 and my angel Elysse born 2/05/08, married to my wonderful husband Jeff for 6 yrs,  I am a domestic violence survivor,  infant loss survivor, swine flu 30 days in a medically induced coma survivor,  I am a attatchment parenting momma, non CIO momma, and a passionate breastfeeding momma who will breastfeed anywhere anytime my baby is hungry, My girls are my everything and I live for them! =-) That is me in a nutshell!

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unspecified42
by on Jun. 3, 2010 at 11:36 PM

Honestly...it probably wouldn't be pretty unless I could find a nice horse ranch somewhere to content myself with.

mamabear100109
by on Jun. 3, 2010 at 11:36 PM
I would probably want to die, honestly.
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hatinnd
by on Jun. 3, 2010 at 11:37 PM

 Pretty easy answer.  I'd sink into a deep depression...

 

 

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MarrsBar211989
by on Jun. 3, 2010 at 11:38 PM
Same. Hopefully I would really turn to God at that time, instead of turning away from him in anger. I pray that doesn't hAppen.

Quoting mamabear100109:

I would probably want to die, honestly.
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mrs.sgt
by on Jun. 3, 2010 at 11:38 PM
This happened to our friend John during his last tour in Iraq. It's been a long hard road for him but he's doing better everyday. All you can do is carry on.
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StructuredChaos
by on Jun. 3, 2010 at 11:38 PM

 In that situation, I'm not sure if you would be able to grasp the gravity of the situation.  But if it was me, I would try to make the best of it, work hard at PT and OT, and find something that I could do, instead of dwelling on the things I could not.

momof2little1s
by on Jun. 3, 2010 at 11:49 PM

What id insurance would not cover OT, because they did not believe you could not make enough progress?

Quoting StructuredChaos:

 In that situation, I'm not sure if you would be able to grasp the gravity of the situation.  But if it was me, I would try to make the best of it, work hard at PT and OT, and find something that I could do, instead of dwelling on the things I could not.


I am Kelly, 32 yr old Mom of 4 Girls!  Caitlin 5 yrs, Lilly 3 yrs, Molly born 6/19/09 and my angel Elysse born 2/05/08, married to my wonderful husband Jeff for 6 yrs,  I am a domestic violence survivor,  infant loss survivor, swine flu 30 days in a medically induced coma survivor,  I am a attatchment parenting momma, non CIO momma, and a passionate breastfeeding momma who will breastfeed anywhere anytime my baby is hungry, My girls are my everything and I live for them! =-) That is me in a nutshell!

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krissy0506
by on Jun. 3, 2010 at 11:51 PM
I always say how thankful I am for my sanity and my wit. I think far too many take it for granted...even as we get older it starts to slip. I really don't know what I would do.
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FL2AK
by on Jun. 3, 2010 at 11:54 PM

I would start finding agencies that could assist me with living at my fullest potential.  A person with a TBI has to learn what their limitations are and work within them.  There would likely be some skills that I still had and that with some assistance or assistive devices I would still be able to work.  Memory issues and problems with math and reading can be worked with easily, accommodations can be made. 

I have worked with many people who have had a TBI who continued to live a productive life.  Acceptance takes time though and a person needs time to morn the death of the person that they once were. 

momof2little1s
by on Jun. 4, 2010 at 12:00 AM

BUMP!

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