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Support your child's dreams, no matter what?

Posted by on Jun. 13, 2010 at 1:21 AM
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I saw this stated several times on another post, that we should support our children's dreams no matter what.

I don't agree.

If my children's dreams are to be porn stars or drug dealers or something, I'm not supporting that. If, in my opinion, their dream is dangerous or foolhardy, I will not support it. And until they're 18, it's my job to make those parenting choices that hopefully lead them to the right path, not let them live their dream no matter the cost(and I don't mean monetarily).
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mrs.sgt
by on Jun. 13, 2010 at 1:22 AM

I'll support their dreams as long as they don't hurt anyone else or are illegal. 

savedbygrace316
by on Jun. 13, 2010 at 1:24 AM

I'll support them within reason.

Mommy4000
by Gold Member on Jun. 13, 2010 at 1:24 AM

I agree. Almost anything my kids say they want to do or be I completely support but there are some things in their young little minds that they say and I have to stop them in their tracks and say, No maybe not, why don't you think about this instead lol.

abstractmommy
by Ruby Member on Jun. 13, 2010 at 1:24 AM
What if it hurts THEM? And I'm not talking bruises, cuts, or the threat of broken bones.

Quoting mrs.sgt:

I'll support their dreams as long as they don't hurt anyone else or are illegal. 

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carter210
by on Jun. 13, 2010 at 1:25 AM

 Exactly!

Quoting mrs.sgt:

I'll support their dreams as long as they don't hurt anyone else or are illegal. 

 

mrs.sgt
by on Jun. 13, 2010 at 1:26 AM

such as?

Quoting abstractmommy:

What if it hurts THEM? And I'm not talking bruises, cuts, or the threat of broken bones.

Quoting mrs.sgt:

I'll support their dreams as long as they don't hurt anyone else or are illegal. 


EternalDreams
by on Jun. 13, 2010 at 1:26 AM

What if it does?They could be hurt, or killed just walking down the street

Quoting abstractmommy:

What if it hurts THEM? And I'm not talking bruises, cuts, or the threat of broken bones.

Quoting mrs.sgt:

I'll support their dreams as long as they don't hurt anyone else or are illegal. 



dreamerinluv
by on Jun. 13, 2010 at 1:28 AM

 Bare with me.........I doubt that my kids (ages 10, 8, 2) would want to grow to be porn stars.....why....simply because they are not exposed to that atmosphere..........if however in later years they decide this is their chice then hubby and I will sit and have an adult discussion......but I do support my kids dreams........I had a dream once and my mother crushed it......and guess what? She kicks herself now because she knows I could have become something better !!

~~ Lady GaGa

abstractmommy
by Ruby Member on Jun. 13, 2010 at 1:28 AM
But it's less likely, statistically, than, say, letting them sail around the world when bad weather is predicted!

Quoting EternalDreams:

What if it does?They could be hurt, or killed just walking down the street

Quoting abstractmommy:

What if it hurts THEM? And I'm not talking bruises, cuts, or the threat of broken bones.



Quoting mrs.sgt:

I'll support their dreams as long as they don't hurt anyone else or are illegal. 


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by Gold Member on Jun. 13, 2010 at 1:30 AM

I think if a child's greatest aspiration is to become a porn star, drug dealer, etc........there's a big parenting fail somewhere.




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