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Cotillion, anyone??

Posted by on Jun. 26, 2010 at 12:47 AM
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 I've been asked to be one of the 18 candles at one of my students cotillions. I have no idea what to do!! Help!

by on Jun. 26, 2010 at 12:47 AM
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by CAFE SASSY HBIC on Jun. 26, 2010 at 12:52 AM

The highlight of a debutante’s ball is known as The Grand Cotillion Dance where the Debutante, with an escort, share a waltz dance with the elegantly-dressed cotillion court composed of her friends of 9 boys and 9 girls. A special cotillion choreographer is normally hired by the debutante’s parent to teach the un-experienced boys and girls to perform a highly-choreographed waltz dance. Practices for the dance can last for 6 months and normally held in the debutante’s residence every weekend. 

The other popular dance is The 18 Roses Dance where the Debutante shares a memorable dance with 18 men with each one offering a freshly-cut red beautiful rose. The father of the debutante is typically the first one to dance, often called The Father and Daughter Dance. The Debutante picks the 18 songs to play and the participants normally include relatives, friends, godfathers, neighbors and acquaintances. 

Next of the tradition is The 18 Candles Presentation, wherein 18 ladies will light 18 candles to resemble the 18 lights that will serve as guidance to the debutante as she makes her transition to the status of a full grown woman. Sometimes, the 18-lighted candles are the candles that the debutante blows before she cuts the cake. Most often, the mother of the debutante is the last of the 18 candles participants. Each participant also says a word, a congratulatory note or wishes to the debutante. 

A new activity that we have seen lately is what others call The 18 Symbolic Treasures, where 18 participants, mostly family friends and relatives, as well as godmothers and godfathers, offer a gift to the debutante. A perfect gift is something that the Debutante can treasure as she moves on to college and started to live as a young woman. 

The last of the tradition is A Word From The Debutante, where the Debutante shares her thoughts of probably one of the most memorable times of here life. 

Likewise, a debutante’s ball is a way for the parent to showcase to the society their daughter’s talents or specials sills like dancing, singing or playing instruments and other talents she possesses. 

The debutante’s ball normally concludes with hours of dancing enjoyed by both the adults and teenagers.

The following is the typical Debutante’s Ball Agenda


by on Jun. 26, 2010 at 12:59 AM

 well I'm one of her Dance teachers lol. She has 18 Candles & 18 Roses, Belles, Beaus & who knows what!! I'm nervous but honored! lol!

by Emerald Member on Jun. 26, 2010 at 1:13 AM

No clue, i think you just get dressed up fancy and hold candle?    You may want to ask the organizers.

by Ruby Member on Jun. 26, 2010 at 3:44 AM

We don't have that around here?  Have fun!

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