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What would you have said?

Posted by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 4:00 PM
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I was at a craft show over the weekend. The guy in the booth across from me was old... probably 70ish (just a guess?). He hadn't said anything to me all night on Friday but on Saturday morning he noticed me arranging, rearranging, and re-rearranging my table, and laughed.. so we kind of started talking. I just asked about his products - he said his daughter did them. Then he started talking about his wife's health and that if Obama gets his way his wife's doctor would quit and she would have to find another one. He then proceeded to call Obama a dumb socialist N*****........

He was LOUD when he said it. I looked around, kind of half hoping someone would have heard it because I wasn't sure what to do.

What would you have said? Anything? Or just walked away? The guy was really nice, offering to let me stand under his booth (fans going), so I didn't want to piss him off or anything. But really? I haven't heard that word used in YEARS. What do you even do/say in that situation? 

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sandra_t00
by Ruby Member on Jun. 27, 2010 at 4:01 PM

I think I would have walked away

people who talk like that disgust me

Kristinmomof2
by Silver Member on Jun. 27, 2010 at 4:03 PM

I would have ended the convo quickly and walked away. My father (who I have no relationship with) calls Obama the N word all the time. It's disgusting.

xXxLillithxXx
by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 4:03 PM

 I think I would have said "wow thats fucked up..." Lol

TNmom2three
by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 4:04 PM
i never know what to do in that situation. It embarrasses me. Plus I don't want anyone to over hear and get their feelings hurt and think I agree. Its a widely used term in my town.
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MomofTREandP
by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 4:05 PM

 As nice as the man was to you, he said something that was not nice at all. I think I would have walked away, without saying anything abuot his comment. As much as I believe in standing up for others, some arguements just aren't worth getting into.

flywifey86
by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 4:05 PM

 I have to deal with that on a day to day basis usually because I work at a nursing home and my last name is African. Once people over there figure out my last name they call me different names which I refuse to post on here. I would tell him that he is very disrespectful and not to talk to me in such a manner anymore.

pookah1203
by Platinum Member on Jun. 27, 2010 at 4:05 PM

i wouldve said i understand your frustration, but please dont use those kind of words around me. I dont take them lightly, and they are offensive to me.

AirForceWife14
by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 4:06 PM
Ha! You think that's bad? I hear that word ALL the time around where I live, but that's probably because I'm from Alabama. Calling Obama a socialist n***** is nothing around here. If I was you though and I was bothered by this, I would try to end the conversation as politely as I could
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Kmakksmom
by Stefanie on Jun. 27, 2010 at 4:07 PM

My hubby's grandpa used that word lots when he was alive.  I personally don't care for that word, and I asked him many times not to use it around me, but he did anyway.  

Jynnifer292
by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 4:07 PM

I was at CVS and had a black man in front of me in line. He was a little odd and said some strange things to the cashier. He left and she looked at me and said, "I can't stand these crazy f'ing n******." I leaned towards her and said, "really, I am married to a n******. I will be sure to let the store manager know how you feel because I sure as hell intend to let him know how I feel."

In your case, you couldn't walk away after you told him how ignorant that word was. I probably would have kept my mouth shut but my feelings would definitely have changed towards him.

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