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How do you discipline your children?

Posted by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 1:05 AM
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How do you discipline your children at home and in public? I think that spanking is not the answer but my family says my child is spoiled rotten and that he is out of control. I have tried time out and I have tried the naughty chair and I have also tried calmly telling him what he did wrong and nothing is working... I am at the end of my rope!!! My family is always telling me I am a bad mother because of how my son acts... I dont know how to change it...

How do I get my hubby to discipline the same way as I do>?

I mean its gotten so bad that his own doctor sent us to the behavioral health specialist.... and he has been banned from coming with me to my prenatal appointments so I have to find a sitter for him... Its awful!!!

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krystlzd3
by Platinum Member on Jul. 12, 2010 at 1:07 AM

Well, I guess I am no help then. I believe in spanking when all else fails. And, 99% of the time, my kids behave. Every now and then, they'll have an off day and act up all day. But, most days, the only problems I have with them are fighting over a toy or blanket.

SammiBaby
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 1:09 AM

My LO is only 3 right now but I try to use all other options before spanking him. But then again it all depends on the situation. He fully understands what he is and is not allowed to do in this house and if he keeps doing things intentionally knowing full well the consequences then he just gets the spanking.

If time outs, talking and whatever else does not work with mine I swat his butt about 2 or 3 times. That usually works for us if nothing else will. Good luck though.

And FYI, you're not a bad mother because your kid is a hellion....almost every kid has a hellion streak in them, some worse than others. Each kid responds differently to different things and if one thing doesn't work try the next. You might find spanking him will do the trick if nothing else does.


Pregomommy255
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 1:09 AM

If spanking is all I have left then I will do it... But my biggest problem is that he ignores me when out in public... Its like they dont even hear me..  I just need him to behave i am 8 months pregnant and I need him to be disciplined and I have been trying forever!!!

Quoting krystlzd3:

Well, I guess I am no help then. I believe in spanking when all else fails. And, 99% of the time, my kids behave. Every now and then, they'll have an off day and act up all day. But, most days, the only problems I have with them are fighting over a toy or blanket.


Newtons06
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 1:10 AM
First off, quit listening to your family. If that's the case then just don't let them be around you or your son.

Second, I give a warning, then a time out, and then if that doesn't work, a spanking, but that's rare. Dh is different, he gives a warning and then straight to a spanking, usually but there are exceptions. Like the other day dh told ds to pick up his toys and ds looked at him and said "no butthead", so sh popped his butt and a tap on the mouth. It all depends on the child.
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Pregomommy255
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 1:13 AM

Its so exhausting... he is two years old and he doesnt comprehend things... I get so frustrated some days... My husband isnt much help because he is never at home. I am the disciplinarian but my husband needs to meet me half way too... He thinks putting our son in his room will teach him but all his toys are in there... That just punishes me because I then have to help him clean his room because he gets mad and throws everything and pulls all his clothes out...

I feel like my family is right... I am a bad mother because I use to have this sweet loving son and now I have this hellion and it all started after my hubby and I seperated then got back together....

Quoting SammiBaby:

My LO is only 3 right now but I try to use all other options before spanking him. But then again it all depends on the situation. He fully understands what he is and is not allowed to do in this house and if he keeps doing things intentionally knowing full well the consequences then he just gets the spanking.

If time outs, talking and whatever else does not work with mine I swat his butt about 2 or 3 times. That usually works for us if nothing else will. Good luck though.

And FYI, you're not a bad mother because your kid is a hellion....almost every kid has a hellion streak in them, some worse than others. Each kid responds differently to different things and if one thing doesn't work try the next. You might find spanking him will do the trick if nothing else does.


Pregomommy255
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 1:14 AM

Ive tried to keep my son from my family before but its hard when we have family dinners on sundays... I stay home all day because I am afraid to take carson out in public... its awful...

Quoting Newtons06:

First off, quit listening to your family. If that's the case then just don't let them be around you or your son.

Second, I give a warning, then a time out, and then if that doesn't work, a spanking, but that's rare. Dh is different, he gives a warning and then straight to a spanking, usually but there are exceptions. Like the other day dh told ds to pick up his toys and ds looked at him and said "no butthead", so sh popped his butt and a tap on the mouth. It all depends on the child.


Mom2Just1
by Silver Member on Jul. 12, 2010 at 1:25 AM

We use a combination of time-outs, taking away toys, and if all else fails we spank.  He knows by now what is acceptable and what is not acceptable. 

One thing I did in public places is this: If he acts out the first time, we go the car immediately.  I do not care what we are doing, we go the car and if have to we leave.  After 2-3 times of this he knows now to not act up in public. 

My son is generally very well behaved.  We are consistent with discipline.  IF we give our son an inch...he will run with it! lol

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armywifenmom09
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 1:28 AM

 I issue time outs... if that doesn't work we do swats on the diaper

Michelle2003mom
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 1:28 AM


Quoting krystlzd3:

Well, I guess I am no help then. I believe in spanking when all else fails. And, 99% of the time, my kids behave. Every now and then, they'll have an off day and act up all day. But, most days, the only problems I have with them are fighting over a toy or blanket.

Us too. We rarely have to spank because they know if they do anything that warrants it, we will spank. Even in public. 

Pregomommy255
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 1:37 AM

I have tried leaving stores or resteraunts but it doesnt work either...

Quoting Mom2Just1:

We use a combination of time-outs, taking away toys, and if all else fails we spank.  He knows by now what is acceptable and what is not acceptable. 

One thing I did in public places is this: If he acts out the first time, we go the car immediately.  I do not care what we are doing, we go the car and if have to we leave.  After 2-3 times of this he knows now to not act up in public. 

My son is generally very well behaved.  We are consistent with discipline.  IF we give our son an inch...he will run with it! lol


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