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too late to do anything?

Posted by on Dec. 9, 2010 at 7:59 AM
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so heres the deal, i have my 13 yr old neice and her mom living with us and at one point they were using my laptop, no biggie. but last night i was typing youtube into my web bar to look up a christmas song(i rarely use the tube) and happened to notice like a web address for lesbian porn on youtube! WTF! i dont ever look at that crap, so i went to my history and found more versions of the youtube porn for the one day. labor day during the afternoon. i know it was my niece bc in the middle of the web addresses for the porn, she logged into her facebook! ahhh so my problem is, is there anything i could do now, since it happened in september? like ground her, yell at her, etc.i was like floored when i seen it, i told my bf "who in the hell has been on my comp!" so ladies, is it too late to handle such a situation or should it still be addressed?  thanks!


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by on Dec. 9, 2010 at 7:59 AM
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artsygirl2010
by on Dec. 9, 2010 at 8:02 AM
I'd go to the mother and let her know. Maybe also block adult sites
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HotMommaStout
by on Dec. 9, 2010 at 8:06 AM
Talk to her mom just to make her aware of the situation and leave it in her hands. If you aren't comfortable with your neice using the comp then ground her from it and don't let her use it unsupervised anymore. And let her know that if she ever needs or wants to discuss something of a personal nature or is curious about something you are there for her.
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Aydans_Mommy
by Ruby Member on Dec. 9, 2010 at 8:07 AM


Quoting HotMommaStout:

Talk to her mom just to make her aware of the situation and leave it in her hands. If you aren't comfortable with your neice using the comp then ground her from it and don't let her use it unsupervised anymore. And let her know that if she ever needs or wants to discuss something of a personal nature or is curious about something you are there for her.
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AngeLnChainZ
by on Dec. 9, 2010 at 8:07 AM

You need to talk to her mom and let her handle it, why would YOU yell at her , ground or do anything else to her? She isnt your kid.

christina0607
by on Dec. 9, 2010 at 8:07 AM

Let the mom deal with her. You shouldnlt be punishing or parenting the girl anyway.

nemiller
by on Dec. 9, 2010 at 8:09 AM

Has it happened since?  I would probably let it go unless it's habitual.  Sometimes kids get curious, but if she's devoting a lot of time to looking up internet porn, you should tell her mom.  And ban her from the computer.

picturechic
by on Dec. 9, 2010 at 8:12 AM

aww, you have a little lesbian on your hands! How sweet! I would talk to her mom. Just tell her if she wants to look at porn she should do it on her own computer because porn can harm your computer

Christine0813
by on Dec. 9, 2010 at 8:13 AM


Quoting picturechic:

aww, you have a little lesbian on your hands! How sweet! I would talk to her mom. Just tell her if she wants to look at porn she should do it on her own computer because porn can harm your computer


momdee86
by on Dec. 9, 2010 at 8:15 AM


Quoting christina0607:

Let the mom deal with her. You shouldnlt be punishing or parenting the girl anyway.

this is a whole other part of the ordeal; but sometimes i feel like i amost have to because my sister is a slack off parent most of the time. like she let my niece(the same girl) go over a boys house after she had him here without anyone knowing and without anyone here. she just gets a slap on the wrist and thats it. and if i mention that my niece did this or didnt do that, she just says ok ill tell her or ok sorry.. like whats that going to do!


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mommywillU
by on Dec. 9, 2010 at 8:29 AM

As her Aunt you have a right to discuss this with her. I wouldn't tell her how you found out or she'll be erasing her history. She's obviously curious and maybe you and her mom can sit down with her. Instead of punishing her this time, give her the warning because she looks likes she's in danger of hooking up with people online. I would also put parenting controls or firewalls on those sites she's viewed recently. 

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