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What would u think? May be TMI

Posted by on Dec. 9, 2010 at 10:24 AM
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So i have been with my boyfriend for over a year. All i had heard from him when we very first started out is how he is a very sexual person. He was very sexual with me the first 4mos . Since about 5 mos into our relationship our sex life started to decline now i am lucky to get it once a week. He says he has been there done that he really has no need for it like i do and when i ask for it makes him feel like i am forcing him...wtf. He has told me before that he did not feel i deserve it,i dont sexualy chrarge him,but he has great sex with me. Hes tired or not in the mood or just advoids me for a few days...sometimes i think he picks fights with me just so he dont have to have sex after he says he will.. I know i aam fat and prob not all that but he is 340lbs so he should not judge on that. also it seems that he will look at porn and jack off about 2x A week. I just dont get it any ideas?
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Taynhannahsmom
by on Dec. 9, 2010 at 10:26 AM

I would dump him. I don't care how stupid that sounds to some. He sounds like an ungrateful fat pig. You are beautiful, and should be treated better. Good luck!!

imuney
by on Dec. 9, 2010 at 10:29 AM

Either he doesnt like it with you,hes gay,or hes cheating

imthatgirl728
by on Dec. 9, 2010 at 10:29 AM

Doesn't sound like you are completely compatible.

jendawn1
by on Dec. 9, 2010 at 10:31 AM
Ummm. Maybe try and sit down with him and ask if there is something going on. It sounds like he is using it as a control issue. He really shouldn't be treating you that way.
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celestegood
by Platinum Member on Dec. 9, 2010 at 10:31 AM

BUMP!

mrs.pyle
by on Dec. 9, 2010 at 10:32 AM

he probably has performace issues from being so fat.......

LinzLou86
by on Dec. 9, 2010 at 10:32 AM
Well... he's heavy so maybe its a lot of work to have enjoyable sex. Just a thought.
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coolmommy2x
by Ruby Member on Dec. 9, 2010 at 10:35 AM
My thoughts exactly!

Quoting Taynhannahsmom:

I would dump him. I don't care how stupid that sounds to some. He sounds like an ungrateful fat pig. You are beautiful, and should be treated better. Good luck!!

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Liyoness
by on Dec. 9, 2010 at 10:55 AM

I have a number of ideas.. Probably the same ones you have, though. (In regards to what his issue is...)

There is no such thing as "been there, done that" with sex.. If you're hitting that stale point then there's plenty more to open yourselves up to.

Keep in mind to listen to his words- he may or may not be trying to hurt you by saying you don't sexually charge him.. Likely he's not, in which case, look at what you can do differently. Dress nicer at home.. Put on lingerie in the evening.. Bring out your vibrators.. Tease him like crazy. Men aren't always ready to go all the time- sometimes they want to be teased, too. My husband begs for me to give him 1000 kisses all over his body. By the time I'm ready to get onto everything else, he's ready to blow.. (That's just a light idea for how to get started... There are a million other things you can do, too.. I wouldn't necessarily recommend a lot of them, though, if your relationship is on the rocks..)

nikieis
by on Dec. 9, 2010 at 10:58 AM
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