My husband is mad at me.....

[ThunderngHooves]

because I wouldn't have sex with him last night, or a few nights before.

We have sex usually about 2-3 times a week but the last two times he has come to me for sex I've been right on the brink of falling into a deep sleep and all I want to do is sleep. 

We *RARELY* have sex "while we're awake" more often than not, it's during the middle of the night/early morning hours, while both of us have been sleeping for a maybe an hour to two hours.....but the last two times have been within like 20-30 minutes of just falling asleep so it's not deep yet but could get there but your mind is all foggy.

I hardly ever turn him down for sex but his timing the last two times has been right at that point. I think the last time I turned him down for sex was when I was pregnant with our soon to be 2 yr old son. 

So he got mad, grabbed his pillows and went and slept on the couch. He kissed me on the forehead before going to work this morning, said bye and I haven't heard from him since, he ALWAYS calls me on his breaks/ lunch and nothing yet so far today.

I'm not going to be like "oh I should have just given in" cause I'm not sorry. I'm really irritated with him. 

Do I have a right to feel this way? Would you feel this way? 

[luv2wahm]

 If you don't feel like having sex..you don't owe anyone an apology.

[BrigMistaLilman]

I know exactly what u mean my SO has horrible timing on some nights...like after I've tried to put the baby to sleep for 2 hours while he was fighting sleep. Then I'm exhausted and he is trying to get me to have sex but my body is just exhausted...you definitely have the right to feel like you do and the men can get over it or use their hand if its that important!! Lol

[Beautifulmom513]

i always give my husband sex when he wants it. i never turn him down. if i not in the mood in the beginning i do it anyways cuz he will get me there w/ in a min or 2. so no, i wouldn't feel that way. 

[FuzzybugsMommy]

 I'm sick as a dog and my husband's idea of foreplay is to walk by while I'm blowing my freakin' nose and grab a handful of boob.

I'm like nope... totally not going to happen.

[ThunderngHooves]

see, that's how I feel. 

I feel like I'm always on the go. Getting up, making breakfast, running the oldest to school, coming home dealing with the other two, doing laundry, making lunch, cleaning, making dinner, picking the oldest up from school, helping with homework, doing their showers at night, folding the laundry, putting it away, running to the store..... you know what I mean.

So when I laid down last night I JUST WANTED TO GO TO SLEEP. Then about 20-30 minutes later, he's nudged against my back and grabbing my boob (which I'm still breastfeeding and I don't know how many times I've told him, my boobs do nothing for me right now.) to which I moan/whined "I'm tired" he turned over and about 5 minutes later he did it again, "I'm tired" I said louder and then he kissed my neck and grabbed my other boob and was like "what honey" to which I said, "I'M TIRED" really really whiney and that's when he went to the couch.

I've had this talk with him before, if you want to have sex and you feel that way BEFORE you go to sleep, tell me. Or when you wake up in the morning, Tell me. But we always seem to have sex in the middle of the night and it really bothers me because sometimes (or most of the time) it makes me feel like he doesn't want me but his body has urges, so he'll do it in the middle of the night with the light off.....I don't enjoy that. I mean sometimes I do cause my body has urges too, but I want that connection and I'm sorry but having sex at 3am for 5 minutes and then I have to go to the bathroom and wash myself cause I hate that feeling and I come back and he's already passed out and snoring away. Yet I lay awake for 20-30 minutes after.

I'm not dealing with that the last 2 times he's tried. 

Quoting BrigMistaLilman:

I know exactly what u mean my SO has horrible timing on some nights...like after I've tried to put the baby to sleep for 2 hours while he was fighting sleep. Then I'm exhausted and he is trying to get me to have sex but my body is just exhausted...you definitely have the right to feel like you do and the men can get over it or use their hand if its that important!! Lol

[lil_Army_Wife05]

He needs to grow up! Sex isn't everything!

 

[Amybelle]

 get ready for the.."if you don't give it to him he'll find it somewhere else" lecture. =-/

 

[sandra_t00]

Quoting luv2wahm:

 If you don't feel like having sex..you don't owe anyone an apology.

[ThunderngHooves]

your lucky your husband can "get you there" within a few moments.

I think I can count on my fingers and toes the amount of times "he's gotten me there" in our 10 years of being together.

Quoting Beautifulmom513:

i always give my husband sex when he wants it. i never turn him down. if i not in the mood in the beginning i do it anyways cuz he will get me there w/ in a min or 2. so no, i wouldn't feel that way. 

[staceyjoy]

Oh god I'm just glad I'm not alone with this problem!