I have to work with a woman who slept with my husband
I'll try to make a long story as short as possible.
I invited a friend/coworker to my son's birthday party at my home, lets calls her "s". S is talking about how she is getting divorced and so on. My husband realizes he was unhappy in his marriage to me as well, and they start talking. 3 days later, I find out, get upset, because stbx wants a divorce out of the blue. He leaves me and moves into a motel, all the while talking to her. They have an affair and then she bails after a little while. (he left 12/13, she left shortly after new years) He has a nervous breakdown and spills everything to me. I stand by him, I have forvgiven him, but we are still getting a divorce. We are friends because of the kids, and we honestly like, even love each other but we know it won't work out again.
I am a nurse, so is S. We work on the same floor of the same hospital. She is well liked and accociates with people outside of work. I mostly stick close to my family. I'm friendly at work, but don't belong in the clique, and that's how I want to keep it. I talk to people at work, and they know about my problems, because S ran her mouth about them at work. People started asking me questions, and seemed generally concerned, so when I started telling them he cheated, they didn't need me to tell them who with....but they did, and to some, I told. Word started getting around that S is a home wrecking bitch, and her friends started confronting me about it, telling me I need to shut my mouth, I'm just causing problems, no good comes out of it, etc. Mind you, I wasn't holding up a sign or volunteering my story, and it was mostly answering questions when people asked. I was confronted by her friend who said she doesn't want to get involved with it. Then, my good friend at work walked into her running her mouth about it to four other nurses about how I am so terrible for putting S down. I'm sure S lied about the whole affair to her, and thinks I am just trying to make her look bad, but my stbx husband told me himself, and then I confronted her and she admitted it too! Now I am afraid that I will get into trouble because people will think that I am lying and spreading rumors!
Any advice? I dont feel like I should lie for her when people ask me point blank, did S sleep with your hubby? I guess maybe I'll just say "Go ask S", but that probably wouldn't end well either.
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Quoting Mandie81907:
Explain the situation to your superior and request to be moved or transfered? I'm SO SORRY
sorry OP, that really sucks
I explained it to the director of my floor, and they were awesome at working with my schedule, but we change directors 2 weeks ago, and I don't know this person at all and I don't want her first impression to be that I'm the one whose husband cheated on her
I agree with you not wanting to get back with your husband because he slept with someone, let alone your friend.
What i do not understand is the 'cheating' part. He had already left and was living at a hotel, when he slept with her.
However i am aware that in the states there is that "adultery" law, that even if your seperated it is still considered cheating.
I dont know , i think if anyone asks you about it ...just tell them that you would rather not discuss your personal life.
I tell ya what.
I worked with a woman who slept with my husband for 6 years, they have 4 kids. I know this is a different situation but don't let it effect how you do YOUR job. If you have to work next to her just do what you need to do, remember to treat her as you would any other co-worker and if it bugs you to much, talk to her about it OUTSIDE of work.
:) Good luck
Quoting cuppy_cake89:
lol im sorry im laughing.
Why are you laughing?
Here what you say "Its possible.How is your relationship going?
Quoting Lanie_momofone:
I agree with you not wanting to get back with your husband because he slept with someone, let alone your friend.
What i do not understand is the 'cheating' part. He had already left and was living at a hotel, when he slept with her.
However i am aware that in the states there is that "adultery" law, that even if your seperated it is still considered cheating.
I dont know , i think if anyone asks you about it ...just tell them that you would rather not discuss your personal life.
The cheating part.....he left for "time apart" because we were going to try to work things out. The whole time, he said this person was "just a friend" and there wasn't anything to their relationship
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on Feb. 16, 2011 at 11:54 PM