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What Should I do? (im a daycare provider) piog

Posted by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 10:15 PM
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Where I live things are slow allot of people are out of work, so there is no great need for daycare.  Ive been a daycare provider for 15yrs, and this is the first time, something like this has happened to me.

The lady I babysit for pays me $25 a day, and she doesn't even pay out of pocket, she puts gas into my car, with her gas card for work (that her work pays) I made that deal for her, because It was a way of helping each other out.  She is supposed to provide food, wipes and diapers, but she Casually "forgets" the food, so I have been providing for her, and she only provides the diapers and wipes that are in her diaper bag, she REFUSES to bring extra for emergency situations.

So Friday I changed her diaper, and the other childs diaper that I watch, and out of habit, I grabbed her wipes with his, and I put it in my "extra" storage. She text me that firday and said, that I forgot to put the wipes in her bag, I apologized, and told her id have them back in there on monday.  When she came monday I DID put them back in the bag, as soon as she arrived, but at the end of the day, I put them in the drawer again out of habit. I know that this shouldn't matter, but I have had allot on my mind, my daughter has been very sick, and has been having procedures done on her kidneys, and my sons eczema has been flared up really bad, and I havent been feeling well myself, so my mind, is a little off, and I accidently made a human error twice! ugh......

So she text me again and said "you forgot the wipes again" I said I know im sorry! and she said can you bring them by my house? I said I would but I have several appointments I have to be at today, If you want I can sit them out on the front porch and your DH can come get them (he was not working that day) She said OH! forget it, when he comes to but the $25 in gas in YOUR van, ill have him get them then, then she began scolding me like I was a child. At first I said Eh. oook, then I became angry and I told her not to talk to t me that way, and this situation could be avoided if she would provide me with the extra things, then I wouldnt have to touch whats in the diaper bag unless there was an emergency.  I said also most people have xtra wipes around, I have them in my car, my purse and my diaper bag, she said well im NOT YOU, I only keep them in my diaper bag, and its a hassle to have to hunt them down, when we are somewhere because YOU didnt put them back.  I said well like I said this can be avoided, and she then stopped talking.

So we were sitting down for dinner, and our doorbell rang and her husband came to our house, yelling at us and using fowel language, because of this situation!! My husband took him outside and handled, it.

So my question is, do you think I should just get rid of her? I love the baby, shes a sweet heart, but her parents are driving me nuts! and by the way this was just the straw that broke the camels back, there are a few other things, like she got mad at me that I asked for a day off,  because my daughter wasnt doing well after her surgery, and she got made, that I had a cold and didnt tell her, even though my husband stayed home, to help out so I wouldnt pass around my germs, but she was perfectly fine bringing her daughter over with Croup!!

 

Whats your take?

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alotta_fagina
by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 10:18 PM
give her a fair warning thar if thing don't change she will have to, go
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lilyrose73
by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 10:20 PM

 She is stealing from her job to pay you in gas?  That is so wrong.

cherib82
by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 10:21 PM
Get rid of her. And only 25 a week damn wish I was paying that
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romanceparty4u
by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 10:21 PM

I would dump any unwanted stress and kick it to the curb, for no other reason than "I don't want the stress".

Say good bye to her, her kid, and her husband. Is it worth it?

ILoveMyBabies10
by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 10:26 PM


Quoting lilyrose73:

 She is stealing from her job to pay you in gas?  That is so wrong.

Well she got the okay from her work, or else I wouldnt have agreed, I didnt want to be in the middle of that mess, if something happend

mommyzgirlz3
by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 10:26 PM

your and adult, and so is she, if she cant handle things like and adult then you need to. tell her to find another sitter,..

jasminesmom09
by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 10:27 PM

thats what I was thinking. And if her hubby is home, then why is she using a sitter?

Quoting lilyrose73:

 She is stealing from her job to pay you in gas?  That is so wrong.


I'm married, and have 1 DD. I'm studying online for early child hood education/development, with a minor in business and accounting. And hope to open my own daycare/preschool when I'm done.

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ILoveMyBabies10
by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 10:27 PM


Quoting cherib82:

Get rid of her. And only 25 a week damn wish I was paying that


no $25 a day

lilyrose73
by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 10:29 PM

 

Quoting ILoveMyBabies10:

 

Quoting lilyrose73:

 She is stealing from her job to pay you in gas?  That is so wrong.

Well she got the okay from her work, or else I wouldnt have agreed, I didnt want to be in the middle of that mess, if something happend

 Is that what SHE told you or did you get it in writing from the company? Regardless, she sounds like a PITA and not worth the gas money.

 


 


Champions find a way... Losers find an excuse

PartyOf5InWI
by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 10:32 PM

I've been doing daycare from my home for the past 6+years. From my experience parents like these will always be doing something that is not appropriate, rude, etc. And on top of it all they are not even paying you cash they are paying you with their gas card they get through work!!! Seriously, they are damn lucky you accept that. I never would. I know it's probably really hard to let go of the money but for your own sanity I think it needs to be done.

And BTW asking parents to bring a supply of their childrens diapers and wipes is common pratice. You are not being unreasonable at all. And for me, the dad coming over and swearing and what not. I would have told them I was done right then and there.

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