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Have you ever known...

Posted by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 4:34 PM
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...a sociopath? I ask because a couple of weeks ago I posted about my ex-husband who is a clinically diagnosed sociopath and I had many people who asked me "why would you have married him in the first place??".  I've read statistics saying that 1 in every 25 people is a sociopath... and I was just wondering how many people have met someone who was actually diagnosed as being a sociopath. 

 

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LoveMyBlessings
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 4:38 PM

Nope. Just a few crazies, LOL. I have thought that maybe 3 people I have known in my life suffered from undiagnosed bipolar disorder... but that is it.

NevaehAndAjsMom
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 4:38 PM

i have never known someone to be diagnosed but i truly believe my ex is a sociopath. i have many reasons of his character that point directly at that. i have always said that there was just something off about him and that he needed therapy but didnt realize i thought he was a sociopath until i looked up all of the characteristics of one

LoveMyBlessings
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 4:41 PM

What are the characteristics of one? I'm being lazy and not googling. ;o)

Quoting NevaehAndAjsMom:

i have never known someone to be diagnosed but i truly believe my ex is a sociopath. i have many reasons of his character that point directly at that. i have always said that there was just something off about him and that he needed therapy but didnt realize i thought he was a sociopath until i looked up all of the characteristics of one



NevaehAndAjsMom
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 4:42 PM

Profile of the Sociopath

This website summarizes some of the common features of descriptions of the behavior of sociopaths.


  • Glibness and Superficial Charm

  • Manipulative and Conning
    They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors as permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used. They may dominate and humiliate their victims.

  • Grandiose Sense of Self
    Feels entitled to certain things as "their right."

  • Pathological Lying
    Has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can create, and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers and abilities. Extremely convincing and even able to pass lie detector tests.

  • Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt
    A deep seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at their core. Does not see others around them as people, but only as targets and opportunities. Instead of friends, they have victims and accomplices who end up as victims. The end always justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way.

  • Shallow Emotions
    When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises.

  • Incapacity for Love

  • Need for Stimulation
    Living on the edge. Verbal outbursts and physical punishments are normal. Promiscuity and gambling are common.

  • Callousness/Lack of Empathy
    Unable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only contempt for others' feelings of distress and readily taking advantage of them.

  • Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature
    Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as creating hopelessness in the victim. Believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for their impact on others.

  • Early Behavior Problems/Juvenile Delinquency
    Usually has a history of behavioral and academic difficulties, yet "gets by" by conning others. Problems in making and keeping friends; aberrant behaviors such as cruelty to people or animals, stealing, etc.

  • Irresponsibility/Unreliability
    Not concerned about wrecking others' lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blames others, even for acts they obviously committed.

  • Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity
    Promiscuity, child sexual abuse, rape and sexual acting out of all sorts.

  • Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic Lifestyle
    Tends to move around a lot or makes all encompassing promises for the future, poor work ethic but exploits others effectively.

  • Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility
    Changes their image as needed to avoid prosecution. Changes life story readily.
prinzesstephi
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 4:53 PM

My ex was clinically diagnosed as a sociopath... but when I first met him he seemed charming, sweet, polite... it wasn't until after he convinced me to marry him (four months after we met) that his true colors came out. He used to do things like try to convince me to kill myself, play with the kids by wrestling with them until they cried then making fun of  them for crying... that type of stuff. He also convinced me that I'd be nothing without him, so it was impossible for me to leave him. He actually had me convinced for a great number of years that love doesn't exist... that it's just a figment of societies imagination. 

LoveMyBlessings
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 4:54 PM

Hmmm... interesting!

I think the categories that the people that I know that had those issues can also be seen as immaturity, drug issues, not having to own up ot reponsibilities and such.

I have one family member that MIGHT fall into that diagnosis, though.

Very interesting, though!

ShannaBee
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 4:58 PM
Yes. I dated one. He was so obsessed with me his next girlfriend was also named Shannon and had long dark hair like me and my heigth. He would call her by my last name and hyphenate it with his. He wound up beating the shit out of her. He was the best actor in the world as I never knew exactly how sick he was. He was always mentally and emotionally abusive to me and insanely controlling, all red flags.
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ShannaBee
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 5:01 PM
Oh and he was diagnosed, right before I left him, his mom showed me the paperwork. He was court ordered to see a mental health professional once a month but never went. He was also supposed to be on medication but never took it.
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prinzesstephi
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 5:08 PM

He's thirty two... and until recently hasn't had any issues with drug or alcohol abuse. He was diagnosed at 19, and that diagnosis still stands. It's scary, because they're incredibly good manipulators, and he's scary smart, which from my research is pretty common among sociopaths. 

Quoting LoveMyBlessings:

Hmmm... interesting!

I think the categories that the people that I know that had those issues can also be seen as immaturity, drug issues, not having to own up ot reponsibilities and such.

I have one family member that MIGHT fall into that diagnosis, though.

Very interesting, though!


 

prinzesstephi
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 5:18 PM

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