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Reactive Attachment Disorder

Posted by on Jul. 8, 2011 at 11:06 AM
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Anyone else dealing with a child with this issue?  I am interested in knowing what type of therapies people have tried, and how successful they feel they have been.

Thanks. 

Edit: I am listing the symptoms below since some have asked and they are imbedded in the replies and might be missed.

Intense control battles, very bossy and argumentative; defiance and anger
Resists affection on parental terms
Lack of eye contact, especially with parents - will look into your eyes when lying
Manipulative - superficially charming and engaging
Indiscriminately affectionate with strangers
Poor peer relationships
Steals
Lies about the obvious
Lack of conscience - shows no remorse
Destructive to property, self and/or others
Lack of impulse control
Hypervigilant/Hyperactive
Learning lags/delays
Speech and language problems
Incessant chatter and/or questions
Inappropriately demanding and/or clingy
Food issues - hordes, gorges, refuses to eat, eats strange things,  hides food
Fascinated with fire, blood, gore, weapons, evil
Very concerned about tiny hurts but brushes off big hurts
Parents appear hostile and angry
The child was neglected and/or physically abused in the first three  years of life

 

 

by on Jul. 8, 2011 at 11:06 AM
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TwisterMonkey
by on Jul. 8, 2011 at 11:07 AM

 I am sure I am going to need to bump this like crazy...so bump

TwisterMonkey
by on Jul. 8, 2011 at 11:08 AM

 Bump

futureshock
by Emerald Member on Jul. 8, 2011 at 11:10 AM

I have heard about this with adopted children, how prevalent is it with bio kids?

imemilysmom
by on Jul. 8, 2011 at 11:10 AM

 What is it?

TwisterMonkey
by on Jul. 8, 2011 at 11:11 AM

I don't know, my kids are adopted.  Its really only my one son who is having the issue who was in an institution from birth.  Very prevalent among institutionalized children.

TwisterMonkey
by on Jul. 8, 2011 at 11:13 AM

Children with attachment disorders or other attachment problems have difficulty connecting to others and managing their own emotions. This results in a lack of trust and self-worth, a fear of getting close to anyone, anger, and a need to be in control. A child with an attachment disorder feels unsafe and alone.

Symptoms of Reactive Attachment Disorder (describes my son perfectly)

  • Intense control battles, very bossy and argumentative; defiance and anger
    •Resists affection on parental terms
    •Lack of eye contact, especially with parents - will look into your eyes when lying
    •Manipulative - superficially charming and engaging
    •Indiscriminately affectionate with strangers
    •Poor peer relationships
    •Steals
    •Lies about the obvious
    •Lack of conscience - shows no remorse
    •Destructive to property, self and/or others
    •Lack of impulse control
    •Hypervigilant/Hyperactive
    •Learning lags/delays
    •Speech and language problems
    •Incessant chatter and/or questions
    •Inappropriately demanding and/or clingy
    •Food issues - hordes, gorges, refuses to eat, eats strange things,  hides food
    •Fascinated with fire, blood, gore, weapons, evil
    •Very concerned about tiny hurts but brushes off big hurts
    •Parents appear hostile and angry
    •The child was neglected and/or physically abused in the first three  years of life

 

Quoting imemilysmom:

 What is it?

 

TwisterMonkey
by on Jul. 8, 2011 at 11:14 AM

 Its a very difficult thing.

DeathGoddess
by Silver Member on Jul. 8, 2011 at 11:15 AM

BUMP!

teaching_mama
by on Jul. 8, 2011 at 11:17 AM
Research sand therapy. If I can find the website for it I will post it for you. It is something we used for a lot of different kids in my classroom and it's very therapeutic. I'm not sure it would help but might be worth checking into.
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teaching_mama
by on Jul. 8, 2011 at 11:17 AM
Also occupational therapy may help with some of the issues with aversion to touch.
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