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Why Some Women Stay in Abusive Relationships

Posted by on Aug. 19, 2011 at 11:45 AM
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Women are not the only ones being harmed by staying in abusive relationships.  Children suffer as well.  This is a spin off from:

Children Suffer When Their Mothers Are In Abusive Relationships

Quote:

Over half of abused women see male partners as dependable and affectionate

 

Over half of abused women see male partners as dependable Toronto, April 13 : Why do many women still remain in abusive relationships with their male partners? A new study says they see their partners as dependable and affectionate.

The study by researchers in Toronto and New York suggests that many who live with chronic psychological abuse still see certain positive traits in their abusers - such as dependability and being affectionate - which may partly explain why they stay.

"We wanted to see whether survey information from women who were not currently seeking treatment or counselling for relationship abuse could be a reliable source for identifying specific types of male abusers," says Patricia O'Campo.

O'Campo, social epidemiologist and director of the Centre for Research on Inner City Health at St. Michael's Hospital, Toronto, said: "We wanted to learn more."

O'Campo co-authored the study with researchers from Adelphi University in Garden City, New York.

Using survey data from a project funded by the US National Institute of Mental Health, the researchers explored the experiences of 611 urban-dwelling, low-income American women.

Overall, 42.8 percent of those surveyed said they had been abused by their intimate male partners in the year preceding the survey.

Psychological abuse was significantly more of an ongoing problem than physical abuse, while sexual abuse was reported as least common.

A relatively small number of women (2.3 percent) perceived their partners as extremely controlling, while 1.2 percent reported that their partners engaged in extreme generally violent behaviours.

But a considerable number of women felt their abusive male partners still possessed some good qualities: more than half (54 percent) saw their partners as highly dependable, while one in five (21 percent) felt the men in their lives possessed significant positive traits (i. e., being affectionate).

Based on the survey findings, the researchers divided the male abusers into three groups: "Dependable, yet abusive" men (44 percent of the sample) had the lowest scores for controlling and generally violent behaviours, and the highest scores for dependability and positive traits.

"Positive and controlling" men (38 percent of the sample) had moderately high scores for violence and also for dependability and positive traits.

However, they were more controlling than men in the first group, displaying significantly higher levels of generally violent behaviours, said a St. Michael's Hospital release.

"Dangerously abusive" men (18 percent) had the highest scores for violence, controlling behaviour and legal problems and the lowest scores for dependability and positive traits.

The study appeared in the March issue of Violence Against Women.(IANS)

http://www.topnews.in/health/over-half-abused-women-see-male-partners-dependable-26701


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futureshock
by Emerald Member on Aug. 19, 2011 at 11:46 AM

If some women are not seeing reality when it comes to the personality traits of the abusive men, what else aren't they seeing clearly?  Are they not seeing the damage being done to their children?

stacey0716
by on Aug. 19, 2011 at 11:46 AM

 Didn't you already post this one?

futureshock
by Emerald Member on Aug. 19, 2011 at 11:48 AM


Quoting stacey0716:

 Didn't you already post this one?

No, I posted it as info in a response.

pigtail
by on Aug. 19, 2011 at 11:49 AM

BUMP!

stacey0716
by on Aug. 19, 2011 at 11:49 AM

 

Quoting futureshock:


Quoting stacey0716:

 Didn't you already post this one?

No, I posted it as info in a response.

 So, you posted it already.

Kodysmommy928
by on Aug. 19, 2011 at 11:50 AM

 Most of these women feel that they have no other options.  They do not have the money to leave, they remember a time when their spouses were not like this, or they have been beat down for so long, they don't feel that they deserve any better. 

The truth is that the children do suffer greatly but it doesn't matter to these women.

Quoting futureshock:

If some women are not seeing reality when it comes to the personality traits of the abusive men, what else aren't they seeing clearly?  Are they not seeing the damage being done to their children?

 

Kodysmommy928
by on Aug. 19, 2011 at 11:50 AM

 Do you not think that this info is worth repeating?

Quoting stacey0716:

 

Quoting futureshock:


Quoting stacey0716:

 Didn't you already post this one?

No, I posted it as info in a response.

 So, you posted it already.

 

futureshock
by Emerald Member on Aug. 19, 2011 at 11:52 AM


Quoting stacey0716:

 

Quoting futureshock:


Quoting stacey0716:

 Didn't you already post this one?

No, I posted it as info in a response.

 So, you posted it already.

No, I moved it over here.  Including information in a response is not the same thing as posting a new topic in a new thread.

futureshock
by Emerald Member on Aug. 19, 2011 at 11:52 AM


Quoting Kodysmommy928:

 Do you not think that this info is worth repeating?

Quoting stacey0716:

 

Quoting futureshock:


Quoting stacey0716:

 Didn't you already post this one?

No, I posted it as info in a response.

 So, you posted it already.

 

Thank-you.  I do, which is why I am giving it its own thread.

futureshock
by Emerald Member on Aug. 19, 2011 at 11:53 AM


Quoting Kodysmommy928:

 Most of these women feel that they have no other options.  They do not have the money to leave, they remember a time when their spouses were not like this, or they have been beat down for so long, they don't feel that they deserve any better. 

The truth is that the children do suffer greatly but it doesn't matter to these women.

Quoting futureshock:

If some women are not seeing reality when it comes to the personality traits of the abusive men, what else aren't they seeing clearly?  Are they not seeing the damage being done to their children?

 

Thank-you for the answers.

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