My 17 year old is pregnant! ***Latest update*** Good news!!
First, I would like to thank everyone who took the time to give me advice!! Of course, with only knowing a tiny part of the big picture, not all of it is applicable, but I am reading every response and considering all opinions.
I talked to my daughter last nite. She was very humble, not angry. She is panicking because it seems her boyfriend/fiance is not coming back. She is worried about finances, has admitted her fault in not keeping up with the house etc.
Did I let her off the hook? NO! I told her I would be over once a week to check the cleanliness of the house(as requested by the owner)....she has no more chances regarding that issue.
She gets paid next week and wants to sit down with me to figure out her budget...including what she owes us. I want to make sure that she can afford everything where she is on her own, and stressed to her that she need s to worry about her and that baby...not the boyfriend.
I will continue assisting my daughter, not enabling her. I am not going to bail her out, and she will start losing things if she doesn't take care of her business(ie. her car and the house)
She is terrified by the reality of all of this and shocked that she is going to be a single mother. She wanted it to be a family...not just a baby. Reality is sinking in.
She is still a child, my child, who thought she could make adult choices and is learning a harsh lesson without being able to change the outcome....or go back to the way it was.
I hope that she meant what she said and will work harder at everything(school, work, home, etc) but she knows that it is HER responsibility....I will give her the chance to prove herself.
****Update: The house was spotless!! Now to see if she follows through with the other things we discussed!!! Keeping my fingers crossed that she just got a wake up call!