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should i send her a message asking if shes aware shes a grandma? ETA *update*

Posted by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 8:17 PM
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I had my DS almost 3 months ago and his father had yet to see him. He won't answer my texts or calls. This totally makes me sad. I'm not looking for anything from him. I just want my DS to have a relationship with his father. Anyway...should I send his mom a message through Facebook making her aware she has another grandchild? Or just let it go? Would that be a totally immature thing to do? If I did it I would make another Facebook so she wouldn't know it was me.

*ETA*
I would send her something in the mail, or call her. But Facebook is the only way I know how to contact her. I stumbled upon her Facebook by accident I guess the reason I'd do it without her knowing who I am is because I don't know her. I don't want her to think I want something from them. I just want my son to have a relationship with his other family like my DD does with her dad.

*update*
I sent her a message! I did use my own Facebook so she knows who I am. In the message I basically said I had a son named wyatt whose almost 3 months old. Her son is the father and has unfortunately chosen to not be apart of his life. I said I wasn't looking for anything I just wanted my son to have an opportunity to have a relationship with the other half of his family. I included a link to a photo album and said if she wasn't interested then no need to contact me back...now I wait.

* I noticed that she only has 24 friends which could mean she doesn't check it often, if she even does anymore. Should I wait a while then send the message to his dad saying I tried to reach out to her but wasn't sure if she got the message? Or maybe his brother since I'm sure he checks his messages...
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pinupbeauty90
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 8:21 PM
Bump
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alwayskk
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 8:23 PM

Sure...I would honestly try to find her address, though, and send her a birth announcement or pictures instead.

pinupbeauty90
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 8:24 PM
I was thinking of linking to a Photobucket album with pics of him in it.


Quoting alwayskk:

Sure...I would honestly try to find her address, though, and send her a birth announcement or pictures instead.


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JulyBabies
by Platinum Member on Jan. 15, 2012 at 8:26 PM
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Not the type of information to share with someone over FB and certainly not anonymously.

GreenEyePixie
by Ruby Member on Jan. 15, 2012 at 8:26 PM
I would. She shouldn't be penalized cuz her son is a douche. Well unless she is a total bitch.
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sherry132
by Ruby Member on Jan. 15, 2012 at 8:26 PM

I wouldn't do it anonymously. I'd be straight up front about it. Then you will know if you want your child to have a relationship with her. Good luck. 

vampiregirl100
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 8:27 PM
i would she might want a relationship with him...
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pinupbeauty90
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 8:28 PM
So how would you go about it?


Quoting JulyBabies:

Not the type of information to share with someone over FB and certainly not anonymously.


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married-in-06
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 8:28 PM
I would
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momofhnd
by Nugget Nabber on Jan. 15, 2012 at 8:28 PM
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Why don't you just call and tell her?
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