Could this be considered blackmail? Edit
My stbx has had people take screen shots of my Facebook, print out conversations, and pictures and give them to him since I blocked him several months back. However, he says that if we can come to some sort of agreement that he doesn't have to pay child support and that we settle outside of court he will give me everything he has on me and never speak of it again. He tells me the information he has will show lack of judgement and bad character. Also, his brother is a Computer Science major, and I looked on my Facebook and saw that someone in the same part of PA has been logging into my account. I live in MD, not PA. Seem fishy to anyone?
Any advice?
Also, the only thing I can think that he has is photos of me drinking (when I dont have my son) and conversations about going out (when my son is with him). Its not like I have drugs or anything awful on there lol. Im pretty careful of what I have on FB.
she does raise a good point.
Quoting beethann:
Great point!
Quoting LiesLiesLies:
Exactly.
If he thought it was that bad he would be getting his kids...not trying to get out of CS.
Quoting .betty.white.:
Hire an attorney ... that's stupid and I would take him to court.
What a loser piece of shit and so is his brother! I would seriously get an attorney and file harassment charges against him and make sure you keep any and ALL conversations between him and you and use it against the fucker when you go to court to show how unstable he is. What a dumbass.
Quoting tangerine_dream:He wont tell me, and from what I gather, its photos of me drinking (New years and I didnt have my son) also conversations about going out (again when I dont have my son) things of that nature. Im assuming because I cant find anything to be that bad on there. Im 22, I go out with friends WHEN I DONT HAVE MY SON LOL! Also, if his brother is hacking my account, he may have private messages.
Quoting beethann:
Yes, that is black mail. Pretty shitty he doesn't want to support his kids. Why kind of things does he have on you? If its that bad, why you post that stuff online?
By having his brother log into your account he screwed himself. Not only was it wrong and not admissable in court, but it gives you an out. How can he prove that these incriminating status updates were actually made by you and not the brother logged in as you. It sounds like he is being stupid and childish. He is just trying to scare you into not making him pay child support. I agree with previous posters. Call your attorney.
I have an email where he says and I quote "You know I have the evidence to do so"
Quoting mumbosauce:look an see what you have said in the past. I would never let him get out of paying child support. That sounds like Blackmale to me. Do you have anything from him written saying this or he called and said that ?
Well, as far as the screen shots of you drinking or what not, he can use them if he wants. You however can counter with the fact that you didn't have your son at that time. When my Dh was going for custody of his DD, BM used screen shots of his FB to prove he didn't have a drivers license. It ended up backfiring on her because he does have one, and you can't take everything you see on facebook to be facts.
But as far as his brother actually logging on to your facebook?? If he even tried to use that against you he is an idiot. If he has info you wrote in private messages, all you would have to do was prove you wrote that stuff in a message through your facebook, and you could prove they were hacking into your account. I don't see that looking good for him.
Did he send this to you in an email? Seriously, I would save proof of this if you can. Yes it's blackmail aka manipulation and illegal!
Change your password to something HARD. Use symbols, lower case, uppercase, and numbers.
Second, that type of stuff wouldnt show lack of character or whatever BS he is spewing. Dont worry about that part.
How did you find Cafemom?
- tangerine_dream
on Jan. 30, 2012 at 9:56 AM