Could this be considered blackmail? Edit

[tangerine_dream]

My stbx has had people take screen shots of my Facebook, print out conversations, and pictures and give them to him since I blocked him several months back.  However, he says that if we can come to some sort of agreement that he doesn't have to pay child support and that we settle outside of court he will give me everything he has on me and never speak of it again.  He tells me the information he has will show lack of judgement and bad character.  Also, his brother is a Computer Science major, and I looked on my Facebook and saw that someone in the same part of PA has been logging into my account.  I live in MD, not PA.  Seem fishy to anyone?  

Any advice?  

Also, the only thing I can think that he has is photos of me drinking (when I dont have my son) and conversations about going out (when my son is with him).  Its not like I have drugs or anything awful on there lol.  Im pretty careful of what I have on FB. 

[pinkcoffeecup]

I'd get a new profile account.  Don't use your real name.  Use a nick name or something.  Use the original account as a decoy.  Only invite people to be friends on the new profile who have no relationship to your ex family or friends wise.   I'd report what he does to Facebook. That someone logged in your account from elsewhere.

[Rose23113]

Yeah I'd be closing my Facebook account or making a second profile using first as a decoy. Don't give intI threats.

[LectioDivina]

It depends, No it's not blackmail though. 

It could be invasion of privacy if he went into your account and if so you could have all evidence attained through that thrown out.

But if he's just looking at your facebook and copying everything , it's already been put into public domain and you gave up your expectation of privacy

[JZB]

Record him saying it and use that. Id be a lot more concerned with that than a mom having a few drinks

[LovingSAHMommy]

Yes, that is blackmail. I would try my hardest to get him blackmailing you in print. Breaking the law isn't going to help his case much. What an idiot.

[imandia4]

Did he send you a text or email saying this shit? If he did save it! If he didn't, try to get him to somehow. So when you take him to court and he proceeds to do what he says he will do, then you proceed to show evidence of his blackmail. Don't let him know what your doin though.

[Cookie-kisses]

 The fact he isnt willing to tell unless you don't drop child support is enough info in itself.  He has nothing or as a loving father he'd turn it in no matter of child support agreement to protect his child.  I wouldn't be concerned.

[Jennyanne322]

Yeah that sounds like blackmail to me. All those snap shots should show dates and times cause everything on FB has dates and times on it. I would delete everything on that account and close it. Open a new one with a new email address and only allow friends that you know will not do that on there. My page is blocked to where you have to be friends with at least one of my friends to even find my page. It's set to private for everything and I have pictures that only the people I okay to see them can see them. I get random friend requests from my exs friends and I just deny them. E is blocked so he can't view my page. Did he tell you this stuff from an email or over the phone? You may want to start recording your conversations with him. In NY it's legal to this as long as one party is aware of the recording. Look into your state laws and speak to your lawyer. Good luck!!!!

[ilovemykids323]

 Agreed! It is blackmail dont give into him.

Quoting pinkysmommy720:

I would contact your lawyer and let him know what you have found out.  I would consider it blackmail because he is trying to use something against you to get his way.  Don't let him get away with it.

 

[kimplus4]

You have to fight this as best you can because if he gets away with it, it will be worse next time.