I'm married again. We waited 5 years until we got married, and I had no doubts. I love this man.
Quoting Mamie_85:
I loved my dh, but had my doubts.
I'm married again. We waited 5 years until we got married, and I had no doubts. I love this man.
Of course I loved my ex and yes "love" and "in love" are different things.
On my wedding day there were doubts, but I loved him more than I doubted our relationship. We were together 19 years (married 15) when we split.
Of course I loved him at one point. He still has and always will a part in my heart. However our relationship is toxic. We did not build our relationship on a strong foundation, or any foundation for that matter. We both jumped in head first with out thinking.
I was 17 years old when we got pregnant. He was 21, almost 22. We got married 6 days after my 18th birthday(No wedding, no family, no nothing. It was just a "I do".). I did have doubts on our "wedding" day. But of course I was 18 and getting married. Which was just 4 months after we met. I was already 3 months pregnant with our daughter. At that point I don't think I understood the severity of the situation. I was dumb, naive and in lust. I had the illusion of the "Happy family, with the white picket fence, you know the American dream" An he was the one who was going to take all my worries away. Our relationship was built off so many lies. Which continued through out our marriage. I ended it with him after 7 years. We divorced just days shy of 10 years. Our marriage was full dishonestly, cheating, etc. I was a single mother, living in a two parent home. When he would get home from work, he would play video games. He paid no attention to the kids. I would have to beg him to help me. I would have to ask him to change our children's diapers, or to do things I shouldnt have to ask. An he would throw a fit. So I stopped asking him for anything after awhile. He would come home, and I was instantly pissed off. I had so much resentment towards him. I hated who I became.
Im glad that my marriage ended. As I have learned what a real marriage is all about. I am with a awesome man. Who helps in every way possible. He taught me what love was all about. An how a relationship is supposed to be. I have learned what I was missing all this time. My husband is amazing. In stead of pretending to be happy around all my friends. I am truly happy and it shows. I enjoy having my husband home, I enjoy seeing him. I WANT to see him, and I NEED him more than anything. I feel lost with out him. As with my ex-husband. I couldnt wait for him to leave. I was happy on the days he deployed. I was happy that he was gone.
BTW Yes I do believe there is a difference with Loving someone, and being in love. I "love" my ex, because I have 3 amazing kids(I hate him for everything else, and for all the hurt he is now putting our kids through). I am in love with my husband and I love him. I grow even more in love with him, every day.
I really don't think I did. I really don't think I had a clue what love was at the age of 18. I remember pacing the basement right before the ceremony thinking that this wasn't such a good idea. live and learn, I waited until after I was 30 to get married again, and this is the last go-around. makes a hell of a big difference when you find someone who's worthy of you, not someone you just settled for to get the heck out of Dodge.
Yes love and in love are HUGE differences. I loved him until he did what he did to make me divorce him. I definitely had my doubts, but I was very young and wanted to "prove everyone wrong."
LOL @ all of that. Shit happens.
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