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at my wits end. piog. Update. Flipping seriously kid?! Edit

Posted by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 8:42 PM
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So today I got home fom school and asked my kiddo for his tally chart. For a second I though he didn't get any tallies. Upon closer inspection I notice the teachers initials don't look right. 2 u2 add up to four in my head a realize this little shit, after all the work he had to do yesterday for erasing tallies he decided to forge his teachers signature!!! WTF. Scary part is thteachers signature and his rendition are almost identical. Guess the good news is he fesed up to his misdeed quickly..... That progress. Anyways, I have him writing a report. Ghat does deception mean? Why is it bad? Blah blah blah. I'm just so upset with him right now!


My son is having some issues at school. Basically our deal is if you
don't turn any cards at school then you get your privileges...video
games, tv....each night. Instead of just behaving, he puts effort in to
coming up with ways to deceive me.

How his school thing work is they get tallies. Every set of three
tallies equals a card turn. On Monday he tried stuffing his chart in
his coat and saying he lost his tally chart and only had 1tally. I told
him I would call his teacher to find out. That's when he fessed up and
had 9 tallies that day, plus his teacher called me because he was being
that disrespectful. Today he attempted to erase two of his tallies so
that he only had one. I figured it out because he had 1 card turned,
which would be impossible with only one tally, and I could see where
they had been erased. I have him just standing here. I told him I was
hurt that he would insult my intelligence like that and that I needed to
think before I handed him his official punishment. Problem is I cant
think of anything suiting. See are not the only two instances btw.
It's been an ongoing problem all year. I'm tired. Please give me
suggestions of creative ideas. I don't want to say my son is defiant
but I just do t understand why he would focus so much on being deceitful
than just doing the right thing in the first place.

So, any suggestions?

I should add he is ADHD.  The teacher is very fair and understanding,
although she pushes for meds a little to hard in my opinion.  My son is
just one of them kids who needs creative and shocking consequences, but I
am out of Ideas.  and I dont mean shocking as in abusive. 

Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

He who angers you conquers you.

I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders.

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P.V.Hawkwind
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 8:55 PM

bump

randomosityblog
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 8:57 PM

BUMP!

othermom
by Ruby Member on Feb. 8, 2012 at 9:00 PM

One punishment I use is having the kids wash walls with a wash cloth, or write sentences,, do other chores.

catrig
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 9:01 PM

BUMP!

angie729
by Ruby Member on Feb. 8, 2012 at 9:04 PM

Write a report on why it is important to be respectful...or how do you earn respect. Extra chores around the house.

One man I know..he is a psychologist...he used to make his kids pull a certain number or weeds. They had to count them out and have the exact number..

manicMOM_DLC
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 10:04 PM

thought i would get way more suggestions.  thanks to those who did. 

maybe the lack of response is a testament to modern parenting ( or lack thereof)

or maybe its a testament to how drama driven NC is.

manicMOM_DLC
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 10:18 PM

BUMP!

LadyFreeRider
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 11:01 PM
Sorry momma. I dont have any creative ideas for you. Like a pp I make my kids wash walls, do other chores they normally wouldnt do, write sentences or book reports. Being as he is ADHD its really difficult to keep coming up with something creative because it takes so much just to get them to stop and notice it long enough to think about what they did. Good luck to you.
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lilmisfit
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 11:13 PM

Why haven't you looked into medication if it's this bad and you're "at your wits end"? At that point I would be talking with his doctor and/or a psychiatrist. My brother was on medication for ADHD and it helped A TON! It helped him focus and control his emotions (rage) better without changing his personality as a whole. Honestly...sometimes it's needed. Just think about it is all I'm saying...

manicMOM_DLC
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 11:17 PM

im at wits end with his behavior at school and lies not his adhd.  and im not considering meds til weve exhausted other options.  so im not gonna think about it.  id rather him develope like skills

Quoting lilmisfit:

Why haven't you looked into medication if it's this bad and you're "at your wits end"? At that point I would be talking with his doctor and/or a psychiatrist. My brother was on medication for ADHD and it helped A TON! It helped him focus and control his emotions (rage) better without changing his personality as a whole. Honestly...sometimes it's needed. Just think about it is all I'm saying...


Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

He who angers you conquers you.

I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders.

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