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BFF drama. Help!!! *long

Posted by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 11:32 PM
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 So my best friend, let's call him A. You read that right, HIM. LOL Anyways...A and I have been best friends for 10 years. He is more like a brother to me than anything. In the last year A has become serious with this woman-K. I have nothiced that since they have started their relationship, A has become more distant. We haven't hung out or really anything. I just chalked it up to them needing to spend time together as a couple-Which I completely understand.

 

Tonight I sent him a text message because I found season 1&2 of my favorite tv show on dvd at Target for 15 bucks, and I was really excited. LOL we made small talk for a bit then he sends me this big long message about why he has been distant. Well, come to find out, K is questioning my intentions in our friendship. She gets very uncomfortable with any type of flirting. Which I can see her point. BUT this is the reason why he is avoiding me?? Why couldn't he have told me this sooner? I told him that him avoiding me has hurt me more than anything.

He just sent me a text asking me what I want from or friendship. Sigh. I don't know what to do. I am so hurt. Well, if you made it this far, thanks. I just need to get this sorted out.

 

And on a side note, there is waaaaay more to the story of how they got together. If you have any questions, feel free to ask, but please don't bash me. :(

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amyrw
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 11:34 PM
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What did you tell him your intentions were? If you just want to be friends then I don't see where there should be a problem
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michiganmom5150
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 11:38 PM
I totally understand. My BFF is also a guy. These things come up a lot. People don't always think a man and woman can be platonic friends. Have you hung out with her and him? Does she know you? I have always found out that the more I was around the g/fs, they see I am not competition. If we were supposed to be together, would we not have been by now? I mean really...don't know what to tell you but try to get to know her...let her get to know you and see your friendship in action. She's insecure. You threaten her. I would never stay with someone who wouldn't accept my BFF. He's been through far too much with me, couldn't just drop him.
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zoehopemama
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 11:38 PM
I told him that I want us to be friends, nothing more. I have never once even thought of him as anything other then a friend.
zoehopemama
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 11:41 PM

 I'm glad you can relate! We have all hung out several times together. I think she also forgets the fact that I am happily married!! And like you said, if him and I were meant to be together, we would have been long ago.

Quoting michiganmom5150:

I totally understand. My BFF is also a guy. These things come up a lot. People don't always think a man and woman can be platonic friends. Have you hung out with her and him? Does she know you? I have always found out that the more I was around the g/fs, they see I am not competition. If we were supposed to be together, would we not have been by now? I mean really...don't know what to tell you but try to get to know her...let her get to know you and see your friendship in action. She's insecure. You threaten her. I would never stay with someone who wouldn't accept my BFF. He's been through far too much with me, couldn't just drop him.

 

randomosityblog
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 11:42 PM

Uncomfortable with flirting? I would be, too.. do you guys flirt?

smurfbitebug
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 11:44 PM
He has a right to ask that question. She has a right to know as well.

Are you over the age of 22?
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LizzieAnnesMom
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 11:45 PM

Well just answer the question. What do you want out of a friendship with him? Do you just want to be friends or do you want more than that?

zoehopemama
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 11:46 PM
Quoting randomosityblog:

Uncomfortable with flirting? I would be, too.. do you guys flirt?

 Not that I am aware of. But what is her definition of flirting? We don't smack each others asses, or talk dirty?? I don't show him my boobs, we aren't grabby with each other. ugh.

Katherine696997
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 11:47 PM
Quoting amyrw:

What did you tell him your intentions were? If you just want to be friends then I don't see where there should be a problem


lilmisfit
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 11:47 PM

That's what I wanted to know...why is he questioning your attentions? He's known you for so long...shouldn't he know your intentions?

Quoting randomosityblog:

Uncomfortable with flirting? I would be, too.. do you guys flirt?


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