i was and i dreaded being around my grandpa and i never understood why he had that ring of bitterness towards other races....he didnt want me around much and i remember one time walkin up behind the my grandmas huge rockin chair when i was 4 or 5 and ill never forget what he told my uncle how he wished my mom would get this speck out of my house and my uncle also put his two cents in things sayin how i was a burden on my mom.and called a bastard on top of it.but that isnt why i made this..it made me very sad that someone was like that and i was related to him and he never wanted me around because i was mixed.and the crap he would say really makes me wonder why follow into what his family was raised?he was in his own mind and heart and could of been having a different outlook in things.when i got older i told him what i had to say and i told him gramps everyone has a lil something in this world and you judgin others based on their skin color is wrong.i told him you also are mixed with all kinds of different textures...and boy did he gets pissed lol. people told me it was how he was raised so i am like why not break the cycle?change is good i believe but i know there are some who dont believe in change :/ and it is still frowned upon.i guess my other question is how was your'e reaction?were you upset?or was it just something you dealt with? A lil edit :) thank you ladies for sharing again all you have seen and went through and even if some hasnt been through it i think that is a great thing also :) i never want to open up old wounds but i always think its better to just ask than keep it botherin me.you are all amazing <3
Quoting Namaste17:
I'm so sorry, that is terrible! Yes my Grandparents were racist. My father is racist also. On top of it they also discriminate against people with disabilities, so basically anyone that is different than them. Some how I turned out to be a diversity loving individual who works with people with disabilities. You definitely can break the cycle! I will never teach my children to hate people based on their differences!
it made me stronger that is for damn sure :) i talked to a lady who is very close to me the other day about this and i literally just broke down but i also remember the love my mother gave me and that comforts me very much.i now am i mom and i have 4 kids and i have kids who have special needs and i love em and people who miss out on this is missing out on alot :( im also sorry you been through this and overcame all that negative ring :)when i tell my husband about it how people made me feel growin up i vowed i wouldnt want that stigma around them....
I have a friend who had a daughter with a black man. She's white, and her parents would call their own granddaughter the N word. They'd tell my friend that she was going to turn into a no good lazy N like her dad. UGH it used to piss me off so bad. And I think she may be just as bad as them. She told me once that they loved their GD now, even if they still hate other black people. ????
Quoting m3lissa_16:I have a friend who had a daughter with a black man. She's white, and her parents would call their own granddaughter the N word. They'd tell my friend that she was going to turn into a no good lazy N like her dad. UGH it used to piss me off so bad. And I think she may be just as bad as them. She told me once that they loved their GD now, even if they still hate other black people. ????
poor kid :( some people are just heartless
I didn't realize it was racist until i was older
I don't understand how someone can do that!
Quoting m3lissa_16:I have a friend who had a daughter with a black man. She's white, and her parents would call their own granddaughter the N word. They'd tell my friend that she was going to turn into a no good lazy N like her dad. UGH it used to piss me off so bad. And I think she may be just as bad as them. She told me once that they loved their GD now, even if they still hate other black people. ????
Quoting jess80:
Im half Mexican and my uncles called me wetback ... :-/
I didn't realize it was racist until i was older
certain scars stick with you and it sucks these so called people who were our loved ones thought this way...im sorry you were told that :(
Some of the things that he says bothers me. However, a lot of it is in reaction to what his co-workers say to him.
So, I'm not 100% sure. I'll say no for now though.
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