Well, I was talking to my sister about cleaning up after my husband after he gets ready for work. As he brushes his teeth, he leaves specs of toothpaste all over the mirror and I have asked him over and over again to clean it out properly.Well, he fails to do that. I see it and I get a bit annoyed by it, but I clean it up as usual. Anyways, my sister comes to the conclusion that I shouldn't be upset about it cause that is what a housewife is supposed to do. Well, it offended me to no end. I clean up, cook, take care of the baby and all of that. That is natural to do since I don't work, but she feels like I should do that too or that he does it because I am there to clean it up. Well, no I don't feel that I should. HE should clean up after himself as I do for me. If I leave a mess, I automatically clean it up. I don't get why I should have to clean it up JUST because I don't work and I am a sahm. I explain to her that that is not what a housewife does. She thinks I should not complain about certain things just because I am a housewife. I mean come on...he is an adult. I don't ask him to do housework other than taking out the trash. I don't get it....would you be offended?
Meh, its sort of a dumb guy thing, KWIM? And yah, if you're cleaning the bathroom just clean the mirror... You would anyway... I wouldn't be offended nor do I think I would be pissed about that particular situation with your dh.
Just leave the spots up for a while. When he can't see to shave, remind him gently how often you ask him to wipe the mirror quick when he's done.
You are right to be offended. As SAHMs we have a lot of work to do already. Our spouses don't get a free pass to be slobs just b/c we are around! If he wipes that mirror and puts his own laundry in the hamper, you suddenly have more time to focus on other tasks, like dusting or playing with the kids.
For example, my DH has his days where he is bad about it. I end up spending so much time cleaning up random messes that should have been handled already that other daily chores are left undone. When he finally notices, he helps me catch up on things. It's a cycle we go through now, but I'm hoping as the kids get old enough to help out they'll call him out when he leaves mess around, too.
You're not a housewife; you're a stay at home mom. You take care of your child, the same job you'd pay a sitter or daycare to do. WOuld she expect a babysitter to clean up your husband's spit, too?
I would clean the mirror and be done with it. IMHO its not worth a fight with dh. You sister is entitled to her opinion just as you are to yours.
no. i don't fight with him about it. once i noticed it, i thought out loud while i was on the phone with my sister and she went on to say that. we don't fight about it. i am annoyed by things like that though.
Quoting lucky2Beeme:
I would clean the mirror and be done with it. IMHO its not worth a fight with dh. You sister is entitled to her opinion just as you are to yours.
Please. You are responsible for wiping the butt of your young children...does that mean you should wipe your husband's as well? ADULTS in a household need to work as a team. Naturally the one home all day will have more tasks to do. That doesn't give the OTHER ADULT PARTNER the right to MAKE messes!
Quoting Mrs.Kubalabuku:Just leave the spots up for a while. When he can't see to shave, remind him gently how often you ask him to wipe the mirror quick when he's done.
You are right to be offended. As SAHMs we have a lot of work to do already. Our spouses don't get a free pass to be slobs just b/c we are around! If he wipes that mirror and puts his own laundry in the hamper, you suddenly have more time to focus on other tasks, like dusting or playing with the kids.
For example, my DH has his days where he is bad about it. I end up spending so much time cleaning up random messes that should have been handled already that other daily chores are left undone. When he finally notices, he helps me catch up on things. It's a cycle we go through now, but I'm hoping as the kids get old enough to help out they'll call him out when he leaves mess around, too.
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- prettygirl326
on Feb. 10, 2012 at 6:09 PM