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The "good" husbands

Posted by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 3:16 PM
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I read so many stories on here about husbands who are either cheating, beating, being a$$es, not paying attention to the family, spending all their time with friends out drinking, etc. Are there really no good guys left? I think the husbands who actually have good qualities and take care of their families like they should need a little more credit and their 15 minutes of cafemom fame instead of the bad ones.

So share your stories of what your husband/SO does to prove he's one of the "good" ones.

My story, my husband and I have been together for 10 years and have 4 little boys and are expecting our little girl in May. Two of our boys are adopted and have a lot of issues because of what happened to them previous to when we got them. They are good kids though and my husband is a wonderful father to them and our biological children. With all three of our bio kids I suffered from hyperemesis gravidarum (excessive throwing up and severe dehydration) so I was very weak and couldn't do anything for the entire 9 months. With our first, even though he had already finished 2 years of school and was working full time he quit school so he could take care of me. He didn't go back until after our second was born and had to take all those classes he had taken before all over again. He recently finished school last year with a degree in networking so we tried one last time for a girl. Thankfully, we are having her but he is still making sacrifices for me every day. He does all the cleaning around the house, he washes the dishes, he does the laundry, he does the grocery shopping, he helps the boys with their homework, he gives them their baths and takes them to all their activities, he even skipped the Super Bowl so he could clean the house and start preparing it for the baby stuff, all while still working full time to support our family. He very rarely goes out with friends even when I'm not pregnant, and when he does he always makes sure I'm ok with it. It's not like he's asking permission but he just wants to be sure there isn't anything else going on or I need him for anything. Recently he had an off sight meeting for work that everyone had to attend so even though it was during work hours and I wouldn't even know he still told me he was carpooling with a couple of his friends and they were going out to a late lunch afterwards. Apparently, while they were eating I texted him just to ask if he thought he would still be home about regular time. His friends started making fun of him because he's whipped and they didn't even tell their wives about the meeting or going out afterwards. He defended me by saying I'm pregnant so I have to be able to have contact in case something is wrong. They still gave him crap about it. And just today, it started out bad where I was throwing up and not feeling well at all. He cleaned me up after I puked and peed all over myself and cleaned up the floor where I made a mess. I was very emotional after this and was crying because I felt bad he had to clean up after me like a child and he insisted it was fine and he loves me so he will do whatever he has to for me. He said he'd rather clean it up than make me do it myself. My only job is to keep me and the baby healthy. All he wanted me to do was take a bath so I could relax then lay down and rest while he took care of everything else. I am so lucky to have him and don't know what I would do without him. Sorry if the last little bit was a little TMI, but if you had a baby I'm sure it's happened to you at least once. If not consider yourself lucky.

Are there any other husbands as wonderful as mine? Share your story.
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Crazy-Steph
by Ruby Member on Feb. 12, 2012 at 3:19 PM
I don't really have any specific stories as to why I have a good husband. I just do! He is nothing like a lot of husbands I read about on here. I have definitely come to appreciate him more after joining Cafemom.
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couponluv72
by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 3:20 PM
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Thank you for this topic. My husband and I just celebrated our 10 year anniversary. I am bi-polar and a recovering addict. Both things he knew before marrying me. He educated himself and participated in therapy sessions to help support me with both issues. He is incredibly understanding, yet not enabling in any way. 

FooLynRoo
by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 3:20 PM
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My husband is great and everyone here knows it.


kcangel63
by Freebirther on Feb. 12, 2012 at 3:22 PM

My husband and I have been married 14 years.  Times haven't always been easy, or "wonderful", but he's always stuck by me.  He's been my rock, and has supported me though all my hair-brained wants and needs.  He was 100% by me when I wanted my home birth, and then my unassisted births.  He is now by my side as I venture into the world of Doula and Placenta Encapsulation Specialist.  :) 

RaeAnne.USAF
by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 3:22 PM

My SO is an amazing man who loves me for all of my problems and quirks. He's helped me get support for my mental problems, he's always here for me when I need someone to talk to. And right now, he's doing the laundry and cleaning the house for me because my knee is swollen up and its hard for me to walk. The sweetest thing was right after we moved in together our house didn't really feel like home to me yet, he had been living here for over a year and the house was very much his not a lot of room for my stuff or anything. Well we got in a fight one morning about...well I don't even rememeber now and that evening when he came home he gave me a big kiss and handed me a box. Inside was the smallest cutest kitten in the world. He told me that he wanted this to be our home and that he wanted me to feel like this was permanent and he couldn't live without me. I cried and held me kitten and then kissed him. We've been so happy with each other ever since. Yes we have our fights and sometimes we dont get along but we grow from them and have become so much stronger for it. I love my SO!

Beautiful31mom
by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 3:23 PM

My husband is fantastic. He is a wonderful husband and Father, he works hard is honest,and faithful and a wonderful leader, I could go on and on but I don't want to seem like I am bragging. 

NikiOcasio
by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 3:23 PM

I dont really have any specific stories really, BUT I will say he is a wonderful husband and father. I am glad he's not like some of these husbands I read about!  

LovingSAHMommy
by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 3:24 PM

My husband is great. He's not perfect, but I wouldn't trade him for any man in the world. He works his butt off to make sure that our family is completely taken care of financially, and so that I am able to stay at home with our child (soon to be children). He supports me in being a sahm. He's a great dad, and he still make me laugh until I cry at least once a day. Sure, he's messy, and we disagree on some things (we are complete oppsoites in a lot of ways), but he's mine, and I love him. After over 8 years, he still makes me feel beautiful (actually, even MORE beautiful than when we first met). Most importantly, we're a team, and we love each other enough to stick through the inevitable rough patches that a marriage brings.

EmmaGlenn20
by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 3:24 PM

My husband gets up with the baby every morning and feeds her before work. He hugs me, kisses me and tells me I'm beautiful even though I've gained tons of weight. He loves spending time with me and is always considerate of my feelings. He texts me while he's at work to ask me how my day is going and sometimes brings me an energy drink home :P Plus he's the best I've ever had in bed ;)

ColieO
by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 3:25 PM
He's awesome because he still wanted to marry me even after getting to know me.
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