Yep, that's what my kid said at a bday party yesterday. (He's nine) I wanted to crawl under a table. My kid is in no way prejudice. He has had all races of friends since he was in preschool and never thought they were any different. The people in charge of the party played it well. Saying simply "that was innappropiate and what difference would it make". I had to pull him aside and tell him how awful it sounded. He said he didn't realize it sounded wrong and he was sorry.
On the way home I calmly asked why he would say something like that. He said "I meant hair colored." Instead of "boys against girls" he was thinking they could divide up by hair color. But ugggg... that sounded horrible.
That did, but some kids are truely oblivious to adding one extra word to something like that!
My kids are mixed and they always say, "Black people this" or "White people this" it happens.
You were very much in the right by talking to him about it and pulling him aside and correcting him.
My 4yo son calls people by the color of their shirts... so its no big deal when they have red, green, or blue on... but when its white or black... yeah... I have had those moments too.
wow.. it must have been an awkward moment.. but kids say things like this and its mainly in an innocent way... my daughter (5) called a little girl "brown girl" and I nippet it in the butt by telling her in front of the girl.. "she has a name, just ask her her name we dont call people by colors, we called them by their names" and my daughter said she didint know her name, so she asked her and they started talking, I apologized with her mom, but she was actually smiling (even if she was upset) and told me that kids will say the darnest things.
after that I sat with my daughter and explained to her... I know she didnt say it in a mean way, but if its not corrected the day will come when they will use it to hurt peoples feelings.
Yup DD has done the brown girl for skin color and we just explain you need to ask her name rather than identify by skin color.
My DH yells at me all the time because I will say the black on and I just mean the persons hair color lol.
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on Feb. 12, 2012 at 5:52 PM