Im ready to walk to another state and choke this b****

[Tish_Hughes]

I made a post before asking about custody & the GA police. I got a lot of helpful advice. Now I'm just pissed, here I'd why: my ex has DD and we are both military (active). I've been back in the states for 60 something odd hours. We are both stationed in 2 different states. So anyway, apparently the day before yesterday he decided to take my daughter to Virginia and drop her off and then tell me about it a day afterwards. He claims be told me what what he asked was how would I feel about his mom keeping her, not that she was going to be keeping her. So yes when I called, I was annoyed. When I called, I went straight into asking if she had my daughter, she starts to go off about how I called her phone with all of these questions and yes her daughter is with her sons mother, is that okay? Then she said something like I didn't ask her how she was doing, and I told her I wasn't interested in all of that, so she got mad and hung up. So I called back and tell her I'll be there to pick her up on the 22nd. She tells me "don't you come here. I got her from her father, you get her back from her father". I haven't seen my DD in 6 months, she's not supposed to even be with the woman and she thinks I'm going to wait 2 more weeks? She's fucking crazy. That is my child, not hers. So I called the police department in her city and asked if they can have an officer go with me to her house to get my child and they said as long as I have supporting documents saying that I am the guardian then they can. We share custody, joint. I read the papers again and it says that I decide where she lives so does anyone know if that is good enough? I'm going to jag and to a lawyer tomorrow anyway, though. I'm extremely pissed off right now. Who the hell does she think she is telling me I can't get MY child when she shouldn't even have my child to begin with? And I'm also pissed off at dd's dad. Depending on what JAG and the lawyer says, I'm also going to his and mine chain of commands. Today is the 14th, he doesn't go to the field until the 25th. I told him I'd be there to get her on the 22nd. Why the fuck does be not have her?!?!?!?

Update 2/15: I wrote my ex in Facebook and to my surprise, he wrote back really quick. Like a minute later. He told me he was planning on getting DD this Saturday so I said that I'd be there Tuesday to get her. He said okay and we hung up. Then he called right back and asked if I would mind if DD stayed with his mom while he's in the field cause he goes on the 22nd, not the 25th. I said no I don't mind at all, what I don't like is her telling me I can't get my child. I also explained that I'm sure he understood that I miss her, I haven't seen her since August. He said yeah, he did. And then I continued to tell him that I don't want a conflict in front of my daughter and she doesn't have to be at home, it can be a public place. I just want my child back. I don't want any problems at all, but if I have to, I will involve the police. He said that he will talk to her and let me know what is said. I talked to a lawyer a few days ago and he said that she could be charged with kidnapping. She is a social worker so I'm sure something like that wouldn't be good for her, but I won't hesitate if she doesn't give me my child. No I don't like her, but my feelings towards her don't matter. She is dd's granny and I can't change that. She also doesn't have to like me but that doesn't change the fact that I am that child's mother. So hopefully on Tuesday or Wednesday I will be headed there and she'll be there and we can do this like adults. Words wont even have to be exchanged. I just want a peaceful end and to come home happy with my daughter.

[P.V.Hawkwind]

bump to read later. too sleepy 

[mom2cheesebug]

Im sorry. I would be livid too.

[TessB]

I'd be so pissed to!

[Tish_Hughes]

I want to snatch their heads off!

Quoting mom2cheesebug:

Im sorry. I would be livid too.

[SavedraC]

From when I had that problem it was in CA. Without the court order the police couldn't force my ex to give my son to me but the second he was not in the care of his father they would go w/me. If you have joint and the papers don't state specific times such as concurrent weeks dated n signed, then you can go and get him. Hope everything goes smoothly!!

[erinsmom1964]

So you have been gone 6 months and he has taken care of her?  You leave her for long periods of time but when you come back your angry how he deals with it all?You leave her another 10 days there  but want a say in who she spends those 10 days with?  too confusing.

[Kathleen69699]

Quoting P.V.Hawkwind:

bump to read later. too sleepy 

[Piskie]

You get to decide where she lives yes....

But you need to look at what he can decide when he has her. Leaving her with a trutsted family member might be covered, Why doesn't he have her?

There might be something in there about you being the default carer if he can't during his time.....

It sucks.. and yes, your daughter should be with you... the woman sounds like a biatch and i'd be fuming.

[smurfbitebug]

I am full of questions.

[Piskie]

Quoting erinsmom1964:

So you have been gone 6 months and he has taken care of her?  You leave her for long periods of time but when you come back your angry how he deals with it all?You leave her another 10 days there  but want a say in who she spends those 10 days with?  too confusing.

They're both in the military but stationed different states. They have JOINT custody, and her husband is saying she can't see her daughter.I'd be angry too.