almost 3 year old with severe seperation anxiety...what to do,help!!!!

[Mom_since06]

so my 2 year old(will be 3 in june) has what i call severe seperation anxiety. I have been a stay at home mom since he was born so he has never been to daycare. Whenever his daddy leaves for work or i leave him with a family member for a few hours to get out he cries and throws a fit so bad he starts breathing real hard ect. He is currently looking out the door yelling "daddy!" stomping and screaming! This goes on for up to an hour after his daddy or i leave. at night he wont even lay in his own bed because he dont want to be away from us and usually ends up in our bed. Its starting to get ridiculous and i dont know what to do or how to fix it

[raegansmom]

 DD is almost 5 & is just now getting better about it.  She still cries sometimes when I leave, but not to the severity it used to be & not every time.  It will get better.

[MakisMama]

Does he have a special blanket or stuffed animal? I get my 18mo to bed by bringing his stuffed duck to him. I cuddle the duck, and tell him that ducky is tired and scared to sleep alone. I ask him if he can sleep with duck to make him feel safe. It works like magic!

[Mom_since06]

well i mean i have to have a life too and me and my husband have to have alone time sometimes and i'm worried about when he goes to school. He only has 18 mths before he starts school

Quoting raegansmom:

 DD is almost 5 & is just now getting better about it.  She still cries sometimes when I leave, but not to the severity it used to be & not every time.  It will get better.

[raegansmom]

 Okay, I never said you didn't have a life?  As for school, DD went to pre-school last year, she cried EVERY day when I dropped her off.  I thought it would stop after a few weeks or a month...nope.  The whole year.  This year she went for a couple months & was completely fine.

Quoting Mom_since06:

well i mean i have to have a life too and me and my husband have to have alone time sometimes and i'm worried about when he goes to school. He only has 18 mths before he starts school

Quoting raegansmom:

 DD is almost 5 & is just now getting better about it.  She still cries sometimes when I leave, but not to the severity it used to be & not every time.  It will get better.

 

[Mom_since06]

yes he does have his special blanket he sleeps with but that doesent phase him when he is doing his crying,screaming fits.he loves drinking chocolate milk covered up watching boots but even that does not work.

Quoting MakisMama:

Does he have a special blanket or stuffed animal? I get my 18mo to bed by bringing his stuffed duck to him. I cuddle the duck, and tell him that ducky is tired and scared to sleep alone. I ask him if he can sleep with duck to make him feel safe. It works like magic!

[underthebus]

 That does not sounds normal at 3, I would look into some therapy to find the underlying issues!

[Mom_since06]

my other son NEVER did anything of this magnatude when we left...he is very independent but no colin is very dependent on us and very very clingy heck we cant even smoke out the door without him whining

[Mom_since06]

thats what i am thinking too but he has NEVER witnessed anything traumatic or anything of that nature. Now he did have a difficult delivery. He was born not breathing they had to revive him but i dont know if that would have anything to do with it

Quoting underthebus:

 That does not sounds normal at 3, I would look into some therapy to find the underlying issues!

[PortiaRose]

I wouldn't worry about it. I would sleep train, though. I wouldn't let him disrupt my sleep and I wouldn't share the bed with him.

My son throws monster fits... for 1 minute. Then he stops. Its hard not to give him what he wants, but usually we both survive the fits. I guess its just him. Accept your kids, and do what you need to do. I hate it when my son sits outside the door and cries, but I'm not one of those crazy attachment people. I'm gonna take a shit, go to the store, and fuck his dad by myself. Cry all you want kid...

You might just have to let him be a cry baby.

[PortiaRose]

My son goes in his crib when I smoke.

Smoking is sacred. That's my me time.

He just sounds clingy. Nothing you have to fix, but dealing with it can suck...

Quoting Mom_since06:

my other son NEVER did anything of this magnatude when we left...he is very independent but no colin is very dependent on us and very very clingy heck we cant even smoke out the door without him whining