would this upset you?

[Beautiful__mama]

my dad has been with his gf for about 11yr now.she has been in my kids life since the start and has always said how she loves them even if they arent her real grandkids.my kids call her grandma and love her to death.well now her son is having a baby and it seems like now she is having a real grandchild now my kids are no longer good enough.and it kinda pisses me off it feels like she used them till she got one of her own.she the things she
says and does not gets under my skin.i know she is excited but its like now
everytime we call to talk to her and my dd wants to tell her about stuff she has beem doing she gets even get a word in because she is going on and on about what she is buying for the baby or what she is doing for the baby.idk its just her whole attutide has changed towards my kids.vent over

[deenakate]

She is just excited. And she should be.

[Beautiful__mama]

i didnt say she shouldnt be.but when her granddaughter calls to tell her about the things she has been doing and what not she should listen

[lindilouwho82]

She should include your kids in her excitement. Like say "are you excited that you are getting a new baby cousin?" That way they know she still loves them but is excited for a new baby. Everyone gets to be involved and no one feels left out.

[Kathleen69699]

Quoting deenakate:

She is just excited. And she should be.

[Beautiful__mama]

idk it just like everything about her has changed.just the stuff she says and its like well now she has her owm she doesnt need mine anymore (she makes it come off that way)

Quoting lindilouwho82:

She should include your kids in her excitement. Like say "are you excited that you are getting a new baby cousin?" That way they know she still loves them but is excited for a new baby. Everyone gets to be involved and no one feels left out.

[Piskie]

Some people just get like that about babies.....

Give her a lil time to get over it.. I'm sure she loves your kids, but it is different when they're babies and you see them grow and develop... she's just excited

[deenakate]

People make mistakes, and they can't read our minds, and what we think they should do and what they really do are two different things. My guess is that she has no idea that you are this upset over the new grand baby. Her talking about what she is doing is including you to a point.

I really wouldnt be upset over this.

How old are your children?

[coolmommy2x]

I'd give it some time. She's excited now but maybe once the baby comes she'll realize how important all of her grandkids are. Have you talked to her about it?

[Lostinindy]

Talk to her about it. Tell her your feelings. My MIL was like this. When my nephew was born my girls stopped exsisting.

[Beautiful__mama]

i have spoken to her about it.my dad has spoken to her about it because she does the same thing to him buy saying things that make it come across the her grandchild is now more important.and im not upset over the baby.and my kids are almost 5-3

Quoting deenakate:

People make mistakes, and they can't read our minds, and what we think they should do and what they really do are two different things. My guess is that she has no idea that you are this upset over the new grand baby. Her talking about what she is doing is including you to a point.



I really wouldnt be upset over this.



How old are your children?