how do you just wait for someone to die? my grandms has passed :-(

[AustinsMommy007]

Both mine and my husbands grandmas are dying. Both have stopped talking, eating and drinking. My dhs grandma is in the hospital getting nutrition in an iv, she won't be leaving the hospital and the drs say that its just a matter of time until her organs shut down. My grandma is still at home, my grandpa is an amazing man and is still taking care of her and will be until she passes.
To top it all of tomorrow will be 3 years since my aunt passed away :-/

I'm a fucking wreck, I don't even know where to start handling all of this

Fffuuuucccckkkkk

-update: so I don't know If this is really an "update" but mil Texted me and said that when she went and saw her mom it wasn't looking good. She said she doesn't think she will make it thru the weekend. A little later she said If I'm going to see her I should now that she's going to watch my kids tomorrow so Dh can go (he works seconds). She was saying she hopes grandma will wait until David will make it. I picked my sil up and were going up there now to tell her its ok to let go :-(
No news on my grandma yet, my dad is sick and hasn't gone over there for a couple days.

**my grandma passed away this morning around 3 or 4. I got to visit for a few minutes yesterday but I had my daughter and she started to get loud and my grandma was resting so we left. I will find out about funeral arrangements today sometime. I'm a little mad I didn't spend more time with her but I didn't want to bring the kids, especially my ds (4) around.

My dhs grandma is still hanging on. He's going to go see her today with his mom. I'm not sure that I can go see her right now, and that upsets me but I'm sure id just break down and that wouldn't be good for anyone.

I want to extend a HUGE thank you to everyone who has responded to this post. I appreciate all of you and it means a lot!

[PinkyPan]

I am so sorry. I will keep you all in my prayers. Hugs.

[Ashley_Carlson]

I'm sorry momma ((HUGS))

[EyEmTuRtLe]

Sorry hun. It's very tough just waiting. I watched a few people die slowly.

It's one minute at a time, one day at a time and hopefuly more than one month at a time.

Just try to look at it this way... neither will be in pain anymore. They will be at peace and they know they are loved.

If you need to chat just IM me. God knows I've been through this more than most.

[-Texas-Mommy-]

Hugs

[LadyFreeRider]

I agree. I had to go thru it twice last year. My maternal grandpa will have been gone 1 year next month. He had good pastures disease and was on dialysis for about 9 years. He finally just gave up stopped dialysis. It took a little over a week and he was gone. My paternal grandma passed a few months later. She had severe cancer throughout her body and an anyorism (sp). We were praying the anyorism would take her before the cancer because the cancer was more painful but it was the cancer. Its hard. Especially when you love them and cant do a damn thing to help. One day at a time, momma. Thats all you can do. Hugs and prayers.

Quoting EyEmTuRtLe:

Sorry hun. It's very tough just waiting. I watched a few people die slowly.

It's one minute at a time, one day at a time and hopefuly more than one month at a time.

Just try to look at it this way... neither will be in pain anymore. They will be at peace and they know they are loved.

If you need to chat just IM me. God knows I've been through this more than most.

[RmeWifey01]

I'm sorry!

[Patientchild3]

U dont,, my grandpa went the same way and I just loved his short self..  My heart goes out to you though,, huggss for you..

[WendyJR]

It's rough I've watched an aunt and uncle die of cancer. (hugs)

[KaroGreenly]

Sit and pray, cry and pray some more...that's what I did.

[Katenemsmom]

It's very difficult. My cousin was declared brain dead and they told us that even once the nutricion off he could last for weeks. He lasted four days because he was given a little bit of "help". ((hugs))