has anyone else been in my shoes

[tas3819]

I know its Valentines day and I should be happy but , I'm not me and my boyfriend have been together 4 years this up coming summer and we've been through Hell and back , we both have done our wrongs and forgave eachother because of the love that was still there after everything was said and done . But I've done the things I did at ruff points in our relationship even though thats not an excuse but he's done things when we have been perfectly happy , that's what kill me and Idk how to move on when I haven't completely forgiven

[Jperry86]

It wasnt perfectly happy when he was doing things. Perception, perception, perception.

[M3Love]

You either make a choice to be happy and forgive completely or you don't. Positivity is an art.

[lhernandez7208]

Mmmmmmm ....... Idk I've had my rough patches too, in not gonna front. Now e are in a better place same its gotten easier to forgive although he should be the one forgiving not me.

[tas3819]

Um k..

[MixedCooke]

exactly, you may have been perfectly happy but he wasnt or what he did was in revenge of what you did.  I would have a sit down and just make sure that the past is the past and that it will not happen again and that you both agree to break up before it comes to that again.

Sometimes Love isnt enough to be in a relationship and the sooner you learn that, the better.

[frndlyfn]

Wrong is wrong no matter what the state of relationship was at that point.   I suggest some heavy soul searching and/or therapy for both of you to see if you can move past this point.  Girls tend to hold on to bad things longer for some reason.

[tas3819]

Yeah it seems that way but we are as a couple in a really good place in our relationship we have a 2 month baby boy who we love oh so much . It was just the past I need to learn how to not forget but move on

[mom2cheesebug]

You will never forget, so you might as well give that up. What you need to do is forgive, because forgetting means you two never learned a lesson from your mistakes.