my dd1s bio dad wants me to switch things for him..

[luvmykids08_10]

We enrolled dd into a gymnastics class and daycare. Dh and I pay for the gymnastics and I asked BD if he could pay two weeks a month of daycare since his CS is going down. He asked how come my dh cant pay for dds daycare and he pay for her gymnastics. I didnt want to go to court about something else when we could just talk about it and agree. But does he have a right to be angry because he doesnt want to pay the $200 daycare fee?

[Piskie]

Seems right, the daycare wasn't a choice from him, doesn't have anything to do with his side of her care.

You and your husband chose to put her in daycare. I think he's being perfectly reasonable, as the gymnastics is something that she's getting a lot of benefit and enjoyment from.

[BrownEyedGirl86]

Quoting Piskie:

Seems right, the daycare wasn't a choice from him, doesn't have anything to do with his side of her care.

You and your husband chose to put her in daycare. I think he's being perfectly reasonable, as the gymnastics is something that she's getting a lot of benefit and enjoyment from.

[stefvan]

 All of those things should have been factored in when the child support amount was determined.

[sorcha1945]

I think its fair he pay what is required per court order. Over and above is nice of him.

[eesmommy]

I think since its your desicion to put her in daycare then you should pay it. Its not really his deal. If you want him to help pay for something, then ask he pay for half of gymnastics, and make sure he knows when practices and competitions and all activitites are well in advance.

[kemmerer411]

I think if it's not included in the court order then he shouldn't pay. CS went down for a reason right?

[christina0607]

I would think you are responsible for her child care since you chose to send her there. If he's offering to pay for gymnastics...why would turn it down? I don't think he has to pay for either unless it's part of a court order.

[luvmykids08_10]

We're long distance so he cant watch her. And if i have to quit my job his CS goes back up again anyways because i have no income.

Quoting Piskie:

Seems right, the daycare wasn't a choice from him, doesn't have anything to do with his side of her care.

You and your husband chose to put her in daycare. I think he's being perfectly reasonable, as the gymnastics is something that she's getting a lot of benefit and enjoyment from.

[naumann24]

You pay daycare and let the dad pay for gymnastics.

[luvmykids08_10]

I was a sahm at that time. So daycare wasnt needed.

Quoting stefvan:

 All of those things should have been factored in when the child support amount was determined.