I dont wanna give all my baby items to her just because she decided to get pregnant at 17!

[cdi]

My 17 year old SIL is 3 months prego. She just told her parents. Well today MIL and me went to lunch together, and she was saying I should give my stuff that my son has out grown to SIL. I told her I didnt want to and she dont understand saying that she can always give it back after she is done with it. She also mentioned switching my son by then to a toddler bed so SIL can have my crib. WTF! I dont know if I am being selfish or what but I really dont want to giver her all my stuff. I am afraid it might get all stained up and unusable for my next baby. I also have some stuff at MIL's house from when she used to watch my son occasionally (like a jumperoo, highchair, swing, some toys, a pack N play etc) and I am debating on picking that stuff up because MIL is saying that stuff is going to be used for the new baby. I dont want these items all stained up and ruined plus I already told my brother that he couldnt have them for his baby on the way so I dont feel that would be fair either. What do you ladies think?

[OrionsMyBabyman]

If you don't want to, don't.

[justinnaimee]

I think its your stuff your choice.

[harpsichord]

It's your stuff so do what you like.

No comment on anything else tho :/

[Mamie_85]

It's your stuff. You don't have to give it to anyone.

[2manydiapers]

did you pay for the items at MILs house? and what doer your dh think

[CMS803]

It's your stuff and no one can tell you how it will be used.

[cdi]

Quoting justinnaimee:

I think its your stuff your choice.

MIL is kinda pissed at me I think. She was telling me how SIL dont have anything and she dont have a job so she cant afford a lot so it will be MIL and FIL supporting and buying everything.

[LisaRoyNKaden]

Your things, your choice.... not to mention, they were already promised to your brother!

I would be the same way... 

[MIA0223]

Just exaplin to your MIL you already promised them to someone else.
Lessens the family drama if you do it that way. But I would leave the other stuff at your MIL's. That's just me though. The girl is 17, she is going to need help I am sure! Yes, she made a mistake and shouldn't expect anyone else to give to her, but she isn't asking, MIL is.

[Lostinindy]

The stuff at MIL did you buy or did she? If you bought it pick it up. If she did your screwed. Just tell your MIL the truth. You didn't share with your brother and it would cause hard feelings.