I can't imagine how hard it must be, so sorry for your loss....
I am sorry *hugs*
I have not gone through that but I hear counseling or support groups can be helpful. My sister lost my nephew who was under a year and she struggled with it. She had 1 more after and I know it makes her and her dh nervous...especially when my nephew was in the hopistal.
On the other hadn they really are happy with my nephew in their lives. They visit the baby's grave and deal with it as best they can.
I lost my first son when he was 6 months old. I had 2 more boys 7 years after he died. I don't think anything can prepare you for the fear you will have with having more children. I honestly "winged it" so to speak. I knew I wanted more, was scared, but did it anyway. I have to say the first year of my last two son's lives weren't the most enjoyable for me in the sense that I was always scared they would die. I began enjoying them more after they turned a year. I knew they had less a chance of dying. I wanted more kids but I couldn't go through the first year again. So, I'm not gonna lie.... it will be hard, but worth it. Good luck mama, and sorry for your loss.
It's true, you never get over it. I lost my 2nd and 3rd borns...then had two more. Tehy don't replace what you've lost, but they do give you a place to pour your love.
You need to wait until it's time. You'll know when.
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on Feb. 14, 2012 at 3:34 PM