would it be wrong of me to not go? update

[Mommyof2n0308]

A family friend passed away the other dya and her funeral is today. I want to go to pay my respects, bc she was soo amazing. However,

1) Its going to be a pain in the neck to try to get something together to wear.

2)Im TERRRIBLE at funerals.

3)I may have to leave early anyway to get my son from school.

How bad of a person would I be for not attending?

 

 

 

Update:

I ended up going. Im glad I did. It was heartbreaking, and I just wanna sleep the rest of the day.

I wsa aquaintances with her children, her son was in my class, and her daughter and I hung out often as kids at the pool. The hardest part was seeing them.I broke down after getting into my car. It was one of the hardest things I had to do, but soo glad I did it.

[-Strawberry-]

I would just send a card and be done with it. People have lives, and they are probably going to have more on their minds than wondering where you are.

[Mommyof2n0308]

Quoting -Strawberry-:

I would just send a card and be done with it. People have lives, and they are probably going to have more on their minds than wondering where you are.

I know, thats what I wasthinking. I sent a card already. It doesnt mean I dont care or hurt that shes gone anyless. Im very heartbroken shes gone, funerals just arent for me. 

[Mommyof2n0308]

BUMP!

[spunky946]

Since you are asking, you sound selfish. You don't want to go because you don't like them? Funerals are not about you, they are for the person who died. Man up and go.

[LizzieAnnesMom]

well when they ask why you werent there definitely do not tell them it was because you couldnt find something to wear.

[LoriDeen]

If this person was so amazing, you need to go and show your respects to her family members. It would be rude and incredibly selfish to pass over the funeral because they "aren't for you."  Do you really think other people enjoy going to them?  If everybody thought like you did, funerals would be pretty damn emplty for everyone. And to say that it would be a hassle to find something to wear?  Wow. I can imagine her husband and kids thinking, "She obviously meant nothing to this person," when you tried to explain that you didn't bother to attend because you couldn't find an outfit you liked in your closet.  You could show up in jeans and a tee and it would be better than skipping it.

[Mommyof2n0308]

Quoting spunky946:

Since you are asking, you sound selfish. You don't want to go because you don't like them? Funerals are not about you, they are for the person who died. Man up and go.

I dont like seeing people upset, thats what gets me. And to face seeing people upset hurts almost just as bad as why Im there in the first place. Funerals arent something you "man up" to. Im terrible at them. Thereare going to be about 1500 people at this funeral anyway. Most likely a good half, will be standing outside.  I want to go, to pay my respects, but I also dont want to be disrespectful about having to walk out in the middle of it to go get DS, and I kinda dontwant to wear jeans either.  If me "not liking funerals" was the only factor, Id definetly "man up" and go.

[charliebee]

 I would go. No one likes to go to funerals or is good at them (vs terrible) and no one keeps funeral wear around. Wear a black top and slacks and show your amazing friend respect.

[Momma3830]

I'm not gonna be harsh. :)
So I'll just say this...
It's better to pay your respects in person.

[malissaL]

show up, hug some people say a prayer and take off..you'll avoid the guilt..