**I got the decision back from the social worker. The claims were unsubstantiated, which is bunch of bullshit, because at her followup visit with us she FLAT OUT TOLD US that she found a lack of supervision and admitted that the provider was VERY lucky no kids had gotten seriously hurt. So, I guess those 6+ kids and BABY that she's leaving to fend for themselves 8 hours a day will have to rely on luck to keep from getting injured. I am so pissed right now. What the flipping hell is the point of this organization if we're not protecting kids?**
Original story:
Ok, so on Thursday (2/9/12), I was dropping my boys off at their day care provider (it's an in-home daycare). I had forgotten to have them go potty before we left, so I was having them do that. Ethan (4) started to get down off the potty and I was like, "Hey, buddy, you need to wipe." He gave me these big, worried eyes and said "Chris doesn't let me wipe."
Whuck?
Chris comes over and says, "No....no Ethan, remember....you...you said that to your Dad, too. You can wipe if you want to."
Me: "If he wants to??"
Chris: "Well, yeah. They don't always need to."
I turned to Ethan and said, "Buddy, you need to wipe every time, ok?"
Ethan: "Ok, Mommy."
Then he starts to leave the bathroom and I'm like, "Ethan, you need to flush, buddy." He gave me those worried eyes again, and Chris told him to go ahead and flush. Then he starts to leave again and I'm like, "Buddy, wash your hands." (I never have to tell him these things at home, let's just be clear on that.) Again with the worried look. Again with Chris telling him to go ahead (there's no stool in there and he can't reach the faucet, so I helped him.) I notice there is no towel, and Chris comes in with a strip of paper towel from the kitchen. Ok...
So, needless to say, I felt the need to see what was really going on there. I stashed my husband's digital recorder in the diaper bag for the next day (2/10/12). Well, there was 4 hours of audio, so I didn't get to listening to it until last night.
From what I can tell, she only enters the room when a parent is picking up or dropping off their kid. Otherwise, totally MIA. She's got about 6 kids in there (including a quasi-mobile baby), and no supervision. And the older kids are being total shits and picking on the younger ones (aka MY kids), calling them stupid, telling them to go away, etc (typical kid stuff that an ADULT would be handling if they were there.)
There's also a little girl in there who keeps taking toys from my children and telling them they have to kiss her to get the toys back. Ethan told her, at one point, that she is not his "girlfriend" and that Mommy says she's just his friend, so he's not going to kiss her (because I've had talks with him when he's come home calling her his girlfriend - a term I can't even remember using in front of him aside from those talks).
There's a period on the recording where you can hear the baby in the room crying for 7 minutes (I timed it), and Chris only comes in after Ethan goes over and tells the baby to "stop it." (He's 4, not really trained to soothe a baby.) But when Chris comes in, she threatens to put Ethan in time out for telling the baby to stop crying.
Really?! Oh, and she refuses to give them snacks (which is required, by the by). Logan (2) asked for one on the recording, and she told him "Don't ask again" in a don't-fuck-with-me voice.
So...this morning, I filed a CPS report, a health department report, and got a lawyer. And you can be sure my boys are never going back there. When I'm done with her, she'll never watch kids again.
*Edit* I did call Chris to let her know the boys wouldn't be back. I just said we would be looking for another provider because the situation was not working out. She didn't even ask for an explanation, just said, "Ok, hon, thanks for letting me know." So there's that.
*UPDATE* CPS is coming to talk to my boys today. KDHE is doing an investigation. We're on our way to getting this taken care of. Also, Ethan had a head injury on 11/30 (while at this house) that resulted in an ER visit, dermabond, and a HUGE scar. The other night I asked him if Chris was in the room when it happened. He said, "No, one of my friends yelled for her, but she didn't hear. So I went and told her I was bleeding." There are no words for how much I hate this woman right now.
* Ok, you guys are making me laugh about the wiping thing. Yes, we apparently are weird people who make their boys wipe after peeing. We had too many issues with wet underpants when we tried the shaking thing, so we just have them grap a sheet of TP and wipe the drop off. But thank you for the laugh. :) *
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WOW !!! I would be one pissed of momma...Just think of the poor kids thats having to go there right now because their parents dont know about it.. Oh and to add did u mean wipe after a Pee or a poop ?? I hope not a pee, I have never heard of that before..
That's appalling. Glad your boys are not going there anymore. I chose a center daycare for my daughter because I just couldn't trust one single person in their home to watch my daughter.
Quoting mommaoftwo:
...boys don't wipe unless they poop.......
the other stuff is wierd and I am glad that you are protecting your kids
My boys do. Just not there, apparently. :)
Breastfeeding, formula feeding, Cry-It-Out, spanking, circumcising, vaccinating, daycare-sending, working full-time, Pro-Choice, blogging mama with opinions to spare. My kids are my world.
http://captainoptimist.blogspot.com/
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