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It's just not effing fair! *vent*

Posted by on Feb. 15, 2012 at 11:58 AM
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I'm livid. I can't stand this anymore! There are girls who ate what they wanted, smoked, drank, did drugs, did what they wanted (ex. rode roller coasters at 8 months), etc. And they had these dream pregnancies and their children are perfection. Despite the fact that even after being born they are being neglected and mistreated. And I'm on bed rest because I have an incompetent cervix and needed a cerclage and now apparently I have an abnormal ketone result. And I have to be careful about everything I do, eat, etc. and even with every precaution in the world I may still lose my daughter!

It's beyond frustrating and annoying! It pisses me off to end!

It sucks that people take having a child for granted. I've lost two children and a fiancee because of my "body" issues. I've been told that even if I could conceive that it will be almost impossible for me to carry to term, even with the proper procedures. It kills me that I see all these shitty mothers with amazing children getting married or in these perfect relationships!

Yes I'm jealous! I'm envious! I'm furious! Because I give my all to everything I do. I'm fully committed in my relationships. I respect my SO's. I respect the people around me (for the most part. I won't claim perfection). But I get the shit end of the stick while these dumb bitches get the diamond encrusted platinum end!


It's not fair at all! It's not even close to fair and I hate it. It hurts my heart!

(Sorry for my language I'm just frustrated and hurting...still not an excuse but it's the truth)

I guess I'm done.
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Gabeys_Mommy
by Silver Member on Feb. 15, 2012 at 12:01 PM
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I hope you have a healthy pregnancy. That being said, you just have to focus on what you DO have. Some can't get pregnant at all.

Everything happens for a reason, try to see the sunshine through the rain.

Best of luck to you & your Lo.
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sammygrl77
by Bronze Member on Feb. 15, 2012 at 12:07 PM
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No it isn't fair. Life isn't. But, you will appreciate the good that happens much more than someone that doesn't struggle.

It is ok to be angry And sad. Just remember to count the blessing you have. The child growing inside you is a blessing. No matter what struggles you face now, concentrate on staying healthy and getting your little one to the end.
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Miss_MikLain
by Bronze Member on Feb. 15, 2012 at 12:11 PM
I know. And I'm trying. I just needed to vent. I've been hormonally crying all day. I had to get this off my (now pleasantly plump. ;) ) chest


Quoting sammygrl77:

No it isn't fair. Life isn't. But, you will appreciate the good that happens much more than someone that doesn't struggle.



It is ok to be angry And sad. Just remember to count the blessing you have. The child growing inside you is a blessing. No matter what struggles you face now, concentrate on staying healthy and getting your little one to the end.

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grey7399
by Gold Member on Feb. 15, 2012 at 12:12 PM

I'm sorry hun.  I hope it turns around soon.

love_1120
by on Feb. 15, 2012 at 12:12 PM
Relax. Stress is not helping your situation. Believe me.
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singletiredmom
by Bronze Member on Feb. 15, 2012 at 12:15 PM

hugs

 

Here's a big hug for you!  You need it!!!

P.V.Hawkwind
by Awesome Sauce on Feb. 15, 2012 at 12:16 PM


Quoting sammygrl77:

No it isn't fair. Life isn't. But, you will appreciate the good that happens much more than someone that doesn't struggle.

It is ok to be angry And sad. Just remember to count the blessing you have. The child growing inside you is a blessing. No matter what struggles you face now, concentrate on staying healthy and getting your little one to the end.


hotelmom123
by Member on Feb. 15, 2012 at 12:18 PM
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When your baby is born  you will understand and appreciate the true miracle of birth and the joy of motherhood than you and the love, satisfaction, pride and honor of your choice to be a mom will be so intense, so moving and so beautiful that you will fell sorry for those Mom's who had it easy. Keep the faith. Good things do happen to good people.  

mrinewfe21
by on Feb. 15, 2012 at 12:20 PM
Sounds like you need a relaxing "spa day" light some relaxing smelling candles in your room turn on some soft relaxing music put a warm cloth over your eyes and just be at ease i know its tough my sisters best friend lost her baby and isn't able to carry but try and relax and pray that this pregnancy goes to full term I wish you the best of luck and pray things go your way
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Miss_MikLain
by Bronze Member on Feb. 15, 2012 at 12:21 PM
I KNOW!! GRRRRR!! And that makes me feel worse because I'm stressing partly for valid reasons and partly because I'm taking someone else's actions (that are in no way directed towards me) personally! It's a vicious cycle! AHHHHHHHH! I hate not-so-merry-go-rounds!!

(I'm laughing at myself. I don't know if that's good or bad right now lol)


Quoting love_1120:

Relax. Stress is not helping your situation. Believe me.

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