The other night she emailed me upset about a picture she saw on facebook of my daughter, when she was about 2.5 years old. She's 5.5 now. She was apparently nosing through my stepson's page because I looked, and the picture isn't on anyone else's page in my family.
The picture is of my daughter taped up with duct tape. It is loosely around her legs, wrists, and shoulders. She was having fun, but she wasn't smiling in that one particular picture because I caught her off guard when I snapped it. My daughter loves to be taped up. Always has, still does, she thinks it's fun.
So my mother emails me with a copy of the picture the other night saying she saw it ln FB and didn't know if I knew about it, going in about how horrid it was and how it made her sick that anyone could do that to HER Madi.
I opened the email at 2am while up feeding the baby the night before last, and never responded because I was annoyed and tired. I never got around to responding.
Tonight I got another email from her saying to please let her know that the kids and I are alright, she didn't know if I knew about the "horrible" picture, Yadda yadda yadda.
I emailed her back said yes I knew, and I am infact the one who took it. She was having fun, and wasn't harmed.
It annoys me that she all of the sudden cares, it annoys me that it's always HER Madi, even though when we lived close she never spent any real time with Madi, just dropped of gifts. It annoys me that I could have a pic of my stepkids duct taped to a wall with people.throwing knives at them, and she wouldn't care because they never mattered. It annoys me that she is always insinuating that we are abused by my husband, Idk why she thinks that, my husband treats me amazingly and would never raise a hand to me, and has only spanked my dd twice in her whole life. She is his spoiled little baby and I have to get mad at him for letting her get away with stuff, lol. But for some.reason she thinks we are abused.
She also thinks he moved me so far away to control me, which actually moving was my idea. Partially to be away from her and her toxicity towards my husband and stepkids.
Im just annoyed with her. Vent over.
Hugs. My grandmother has that same attitude about my stepkids. When she mentions her grandkids to people, she never mentions my stepkids. It bothers me. They are all my kids. Step is not a word that is used in our house. The only time I ever make the distinction is on here, for the sake of confusion.
Oops. That ^^^ should say her great grandkids.
Also, my husband and I have been together 8 years, so it's not like a new relationship.
Quoting Smcclellan7080:Hugs. My grandmother has that same attitude about my stepkids. When she mentions her grandkids to people, she never mentions my stepkids. It bothers me. They are all my kids. Step is not a word that is used in our house. The only time I ever make the distinction is on here, for the sake of confusion.
Believe me I undestand. Luckily my family is great, except for my grandmother. My parents divorced in 1991. I have more stepsiblings than I care to count. We were always brothers and sisters. Still are with the majority of them.
How many total do you have? Mine are close in age as well. Our boys are all stair-steps, except for the baby.
Quoting PookaboosMom:
Same here, my whole family on her side doesn't acknowledge them. I was the only.one caring for them for 5 years because their mom had nothing to do with them and my dh is a trucker and rarely home. I love them to pieces, and only refer to them as step because there isnt much of an age gap.between the kids and I, so people get confused when I call them mine, lol
Quoting Smcclellan7080:Hugs. My grandmother has that same attitude about my stepkids. When she mentions her grandkids to people, she never mentions my stepkids. It bothers me. They are all my kids. Step is not a word that is used in our house. The only time I ever make the distinction is on here, for the sake of confusion.
I'm more annoyed by the whole condescending tone of her email and how, that I didn't email her back right awaynow about an obviously old picture that she is so worried that thr kids and I are alright. I guess it's more how she worded things and how she insinuates that she thinks we are abused.
Quoting AF2011:
I just think your mom cares. I would be 'annoying' if I seen a picture of my family member ducted taped up.
Quoting Smcclellan7080:Believe me I undestand. Luckily my family is great, except for my grandmother. My parents divorced in 1991. I have more stepsiblings than I care to count. We were always brothers and sisters. Still are with the majority of them.
How many total do you have? Mine are close in age as well. Our boys are all stair-steps, except for the baby.
Quoting PookaboosMom:
Same here, my whole family on her side doesn't acknowledge them. I was the only.one caring for them for 5 years because their mom had nothing to do with them and my dh is a trucker and rarely home. I love them to pieces, and only refer to them as step because there isnt much of an age gap.between the kids and I, so people get confused when I call them mine, lol
Quoting Smcclellan7080:Hugs. My grandmother has that same attitude about my stepkids. When she mentions her grandkids to people, she never mentions my stepkids. It bothers me. They are all my kids. Step is not a word that is used in our house. The only time I ever make the distinction is on here, for the sake of confusion.
Quoting thehickinhickor:
i moved to Florida to get away from my bio mom too mine picks apart every little thing i do i hate it she was never a good mom so i can understand i moved away to get way from her but now i am stuck in my house all the time so lonely it sucks so it back fired on me lol
I feel your pain. My stepdaughters are 24, and 19. I'm only 32.
The boys start at 16, and go down to 4.
Quoting PookaboosMom:
That's great that you see it that way, my kiddos are raised that their siblings are just brother and sisters that happen to have another mom, lol. I have 3 stepkids who are 20, 18, and 15. I'm 25. I always handled all their school stuff, middle sd's iep meetings, that kind of thing, so if I don't clarify that I'm stepmom people tend to gawk, trying to figure out if I am a sister or parent or what lol
Quoting Smcclellan7080:Believe me I undestand. Luckily my family is great, except for my grandmother. My parents divorced in 1991. I have more stepsiblings than I care to count. We were always brothers and sisters. Still are with the majority of them.
How many total do you have? Mine are close in age as well. Our boys are all stair-steps, except for the baby.
Quoting PookaboosMom:
Same here, my whole family on her side doesn't acknowledge them. I was the only.one caring for them for 5 years because their mom had nothing to do with them and my dh is a trucker and rarely home. I love them to pieces, and only refer to them as step because there isnt much of an age gap.between the kids and I, so people get confused when I call them mine, lol
Quoting Smcclellan7080:Hugs. My grandmother has that same attitude about my stepkids. When she mentions her grandkids to people, she never mentions my stepkids. It bothers me. They are all my kids. Step is not a word that is used in our house. The only time I ever make the distinction is on here, for the sake of confusion.
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