S/O It wasn't destroying the laptop that was wrong.
I know this was last weeks news so if you're thinking of leaving a flogging a head horse pic just move on.
In case you missed it here is the controvertial video
He was absolutely spot on by following through with his promise to destroy her laptop if she repeated the offence. I enforced a similar discipline on my daughter when she was about 15. She was truant from school so I punished her by making her go to school in pink for a week. That didn't work because she did it again and I made her put all her cool clothes in a yard waste bag and donate the lot to charity. That one hit home.
What was so wrong about his brand of parenting was the way he did it. I would never call my daughter names like lazy. I would never berate her publicly and humiliate her. I would never ever talk to anyone like that especially my children. If you want your children to be respectful show them how to be respectful. Say good morning and goodnight, hello and goodbye, please and thank you, and I love you. Praise them for doing their chores (my boss praises me when I do a good job, it doesn't matter that I'm paid for it, it's motivating and build good moral). Smile at your kids. This is how you grow non rebellious kids.
Something else he did wrong: From his FB page: "Second: We have always told her what you put online can affect you forever. Years later a single Facebook/MySpace/Twitter comment can affect her eligibility for a good job and can even get her fired from a job she already has. She’s seen first-hand through this video the worst possible scenario that can happen. One post, made by her Dad, will probably follow him the rest of his life; just like those mean things she said on Facebook will stick with the people her words hurt for a long time to come. Once you put it out there, you can’t take it back, so think carefully before you use the internet to broadcast your thoughts and feelings." Talk about being a hypocrite, but I love the irony.
My twins are 18 now they are respectful, polite and happy. They're not perfect, hello they are teens. A few wweks ago my boy was being moody and curt and it was getting out of hand. That doesn't make him a bad perdon, it makes him a teen boy. I calmly told him so and asked him to be more cheerful and friendly. Guess what he is, he didn't need to be yelled at or called names.
If you're already at the stage where you are resorting to taking the door off your teenagers bedroom, you've failed, move on. But if you want nice kids, talk nicely to them. Always remember who is the adult and who is the child in your relationship.
Had to get that off my chest. Thanks for reading.
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The man is a stand up guy.
He has already said that those were the things he regrets about doing it. The calling names and the whole putting it on the internet.
Also I think he was pointing out the irony himself.
Quoting clusterkid:He has already said that those were the things he regrets about doing it. The calling names and the whole putting it on the internet.
Also I think he was pointing out the irony himself.
Has he apologized to his daughter?
i don't know. I would assume (and hope) that he probably has with all the attention it has gotten but I don't know if he has come out on facebook or anything and apologized that way.
The things I put on here were things I had seen quoted from his facebook page.
Quoting onethentwins:
Quoting clusterkid:He has already said that those were the things he regrets about doing it. The calling names and the whole putting it on the internet.
Also I think he was pointing out the irony himself.
Has he apologized to his daughter?
Quoting JoshRachelsMAMA:
You guys should subscribe to his Facebook page. He slammed the media. They are all dying to get an interview with him.
www.Facebook.tommyjordaniii
The man is a stand up guy.
But in the same way? With the humiliation and the name calling?
I always follow through btw. There are no empty threats in my house.
Quoting Fields456:
I think it is great he followed thru and I could so see my dh doing the same thing
Quoting onethentwins:But in the same way? With the humiliation and the name calling?
I always follow through btw. There are no empty threats in my house.
Quoting Fields456:
I think it is great he followed thru and I could so see my dh doing the same thing
Right. That's what I'm saying in this post. Even though following through with punishment is important, it's still some of the worst parenting i've ever witnessed.
Quoting Fields456:
I was talking just about the shooting of the laptop Not the making a video of thr shooting and posting it
Quoting onethentwins:But in the same way? With the humiliation and the name calling?
I always follow through btw. There are no empty threats in my house.
Quoting Fields456:
I think it is great he followed thru and I could so see my dh doing the same thing
What is your greatest accomplishment? UPDATE
- onethentwins
on Feb. 16, 2012 at 2:49 PM