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Apparently giving birth is selfish

Posted by on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:07 PM
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So I went to a business dinner with my husband that included a few men from his firm and their wives/so to welcome a new partner.  Since I'd never met the new guys wife before myself and some others were making polite conversation and i asked if she had any children.  She replied they had 2 daughters from China and a son from Russia, she showed us a picture from her purse and told us a bit about them.  I mentioned that they were adorable and that my aunt also had a daughter from China, because she couldn't conceive (i was not insinuating that was her issue at al) She said "ohh no no no. I'm fully fertile.  We just feel with so many homeless, starving children in the world it is just very selfish to have children.  There are too many that need good homes and yet people just keep bringing more children in to a world of limited resources.  Its just awful" At this point every person at the table kind of silenced.  Her husband tried to kin of smooth it over and turned it a little sayig like Oh she means you know more people keep having kids they can't care for its so sad.  She cut him right off and said "no I mean no one in general should be creating children when there are so many out there that need help.It's just so selfish and it's so egotistical how people think they have to mark their territory on the world by planting their seed" AWKWARD! 

Listen I get what she is saying and I think adoption is wonderful..but who the hell says having your own kids is selfish and egotistical? Sorry bitch but we have 2 gorgeous children we made and raise and are working on #3..if that makes me a selfish, egotistical resource waster so be it! lol

Her husband who is technically one of my husband's bosses approached everyone  today who was there and personally apologized and said he had hoped his wifes comments did not offend anyone.  My husband of course said no problem at all...but you can bet they all think this chick is a crazy bitch. 

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BEXi
by on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:09 PM
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Omg!! I wouldve laughed in shock to be honest.

strontium
by on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:12 PM

wow.. I get how she feels but to go that far and throw around selfish... im not really even sure what to say to this post.... just.. wow..

Fields456
by Sexy and I know it on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:14 PM
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Wow is all I have to say too
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MamaJane
by Gold Member on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:16 PM
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 Whoops.  She just shot down her invite to the wives' club.

Mrs.VanDeKamp
by on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:16 PM
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She just wants to be the next angelina jolie lol
epoh
by on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:18 PM
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Wow. My eyes would have popped out of my head if someone said that in front of me.
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DamiensMommy1
by on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:18 PM
Wow.. lol
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FooLynRoo
by on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:18 PM
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I would have congratulated her but asked her how come she isn't into adopting one of the homeless children in her own country - like the 8 year old less desireablechildren who spend their lives without parents in group homes or shuffled from foster family to foster family - a truly saintly soul would know charity starts at home - and someone truly trying to change the world and give out good would give to those most in need (older orphans)

DropZoneMom
by on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:18 PM
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Yeah...I would have had a hard time holding my tongue, too.   But I would have done so for my hubby's sake.   What I do find comforting is that her husband apologized for her comments -- that says something about his character as a supervisor.

ChloeDolce
by on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:19 PM
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Quoting Mrs.VanDeKamp:

She just wants to be the next angelina jolie lol

LMAO That is what one of the other women said too!

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