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Apparently giving birth is selfish

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So I went to a business dinner with my husband that included a few men from his firm and their wives/so to welcome a new partner.  Since I'd never met the new guys wife before myself and some others were making polite conversation and i asked if she had any children.  She replied they had 2 daughters from China and a son from Russia, she showed us a picture from her purse and told us a bit about them.  I mentioned that they were adorable and that my aunt also had a daughter from China, because she couldn't conceive (i was not insinuating that was her issue at al) She said "ohh no no no. I'm fully fertile.  We just feel with so many homeless, starving children in the world it is just very selfish to have children.  There are too many that need good homes and yet people just keep bringing more children in to a world of limited resources.  Its just awful" At this point every person at the table kind of silenced.  Her husband tried to kin of smooth it over and turned it a little sayig like Oh she means you know more people keep having kids they can't care for its so sad.  She cut him right off and said "no I mean no one in general should be creating children when there are so many out there that need help.It's just so selfish and it's so egotistical how people think they have to mark their territory on the world by planting their seed" AWKWARD! 

Listen I get what she is saying and I think adoption is wonderful..but who the hell says having your own kids is selfish and egotistical? Sorry bitch but we have 2 gorgeous children we made and raise and are working on #3..if that makes me a selfish, egotistical resource waster so be it! lol

Her husband who is technically one of my husband's bosses approached everyone  today who was there and personally apologized and said he had hoped his wifes comments did not offend anyone.  My husband of course said no problem at all...but you can bet they all think this chick is a crazy bitch. 

by on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:07 PM
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by on Feb. 17, 2012 at 2:18 PM

 I would have been speechless and we have 5 kids that are adopted!  I still wish to conceive one of my own but more than likely it will never happen.  I love my kids and wouldn't trade them for the world but wow!  I think it's great for people to adopt kids, but at the same time I am saddened to see so many go to other countries because they all want infants.  All of ours came through foster care and we do have struggles with some issues but I am blessed to have them.  The youngest two are the closest we have gotten to an infant (3 months and 15 months at placement).  I think that woman needs to think before she speaks though, just wow.  I still get a little envious everytime I hear that someone is pregnant but I would never call them selfish because they have biological children!

by on Feb. 17, 2012 at 2:22 PM
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Not everyone can afford to adopt a child from halfway around the world, but that doesn't mean that they can't afford to care for their own child! What an arrogant, self righteous, ignorant bitch!

by on Feb. 17, 2012 at 2:23 PM

WOW! i wouldn't have been able to keep my mouth shut i would have told her how many kids i have and ask her if that makes me selfish and egotistic.

I am adopted and love my parents and hope to adopt one day, but i have my son and i'm pregnant agian. So if bringing children into the world is selfish and egotisitc then i'm proud of it cuz i'm proud of my kids!

by on Feb. 17, 2012 at 2:26 PM

lmao!  Wow!

by on Feb. 17, 2012 at 2:30 PM
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I would have laughed but then asked why she didnt try to adopt a child from here...there are plenty of kids here that need parents and homes.
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by on Feb. 17, 2012 at 2:34 PM

Wow.. that was bold of her.

by on Feb. 17, 2012 at 2:43 PM
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wow i think what they did is great! i wouldnt think shes crazy. just passionate about twhat she believes in and I am cool with anyone that lives what they preach :D Her message is soemthing some people might need to hear and the only people who would be offended by her message are those who arent confident in their own choices.

by Member on Feb. 17, 2012 at 2:56 PM

It wouldn't bother me. She has her own opinion and she's actually doing what she believes.

by on Feb. 17, 2012 at 2:56 PM
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I agree with what her husband tried to make it seem like she meant.  Especially how people in China are throwing away their daughters 'cause they can only have one child.  To me that's disgusting, accept what you have or don't have a baby at all.  But if you're responsible for your children how is it selfish to want to experience pregnancy and birth.  Also with all the rules and fee's along with adoption not everyone can do it or afford it.  I honestly couldn't afford to adopt, but can aford my kids just fine.  

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by on Feb. 17, 2012 at 3:03 PM
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And she doesn't adopt from this country, why???

Aren't there any children in this country that need to be adopted? That question would have shut her trap. 

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