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Apparently giving birth is selfish

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So I went to a business dinner with my husband that included a few men from his firm and their wives/so to welcome a new partner.  Since I'd never met the new guys wife before myself and some others were making polite conversation and i asked if she had any children.  She replied they had 2 daughters from China and a son from Russia, she showed us a picture from her purse and told us a bit about them.  I mentioned that they were adorable and that my aunt also had a daughter from China, because she couldn't conceive (i was not insinuating that was her issue at al) She said "ohh no no no. I'm fully fertile.  We just feel with so many homeless, starving children in the world it is just very selfish to have children.  There are too many that need good homes and yet people just keep bringing more children in to a world of limited resources.  Its just awful" At this point every person at the table kind of silenced.  Her husband tried to kin of smooth it over and turned it a little sayig like Oh she means you know more people keep having kids they can't care for its so sad.  She cut him right off and said "no I mean no one in general should be creating children when there are so many out there that need help.It's just so selfish and it's so egotistical how people think they have to mark their territory on the world by planting their seed" AWKWARD! 

Listen I get what she is saying and I think adoption is wonderful..but who the hell says having your own kids is selfish and egotistical? Sorry bitch but we have 2 gorgeous children we made and raise and are working on #3..if that makes me a selfish, egotistical resource waster so be it! lol

Her husband who is technically one of my husband's bosses approached everyone  today who was there and personally apologized and said he had hoped his wifes comments did not offend anyone.  My husband of course said no problem at all...but you can bet they all think this chick is a crazy bitch. 

by on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:07 PM
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SlightlyPerfect
by on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:24 PM
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Having a kid is selfish. It's the most selfish thing you can do! It doesn't matter whether that kid is your biological one.

It's selfish. And that's ok.

I agree with you about this lady, incidentally, but probably not for the same reasons.

slightlyperfect

Cookie-kisses
by Platinum Member on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:26 PM
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 But in the circle of the world --she only has children because another woman was "selfish".  So does she really have ill feelings toward it or is she thankful for someone being selfish?

FooLynRoo
by on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:26 PM
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Quoting sweet.lil.mama:

I hate people like that, like its my fault people in 3rd world countries can't wrap it up. I want my kids to look like me...

I would be SOL if i thought this.

opal10161973
by on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:26 PM
Maybe she should be yelling that stuff at the Chinese and their orphans. Geez! I mean if that is where her kids are from......?
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emeraldangel20
by on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:26 PM
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...

what the fuck is she smoking?

tarakay0417
by on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:26 PM
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 I can't believe someone actually said that. I guess I am selfish, egotistical, and a resource waster too. I have one beautiful little boy and we are working on #2.

ChloeDolce
by on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:26 PM
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My eyes kind popped out of my head, my husband pretty much choked on his salmon, and i just shut my lips very tights and my eyes were going around the table look at other people's reactions.  I felt bad for the husband...he is new to the firm and here his wife has embarssed him among he peers, superior, and his higher staff.  Ithink thats why no one debated back at her.  Imagine that a table full of attorneys who couldn't even fathom an argumenting case? lol  Maybe she should be a prosecuter.....

Quoting jb0520:

This exactly or just starred.....


Quoting BEXi:

Omg!! I wouldve laughed in shock to be honest.



Cookie-kisses
by Platinum Member on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:27 PM
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 See I feel like I gave up my self and am more my kids than myself.

Quoting SlightlyPerfect:

Having a kid is selfish. It's the most selfish thing you can do! It doesn't matter whether that kid is your biological one.

It's selfish. And that's ok.

I agree with you about this lady, incidentally, but probably not for the same reasons.

 

Breezzzy
by on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:27 PM
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I want my own and take care of mine cant aford to adopt and feel bad for those children but its not my falt they need famliy s if I cold id take them with mine! Shes crazy and dosent understand the beauty in a child that looks like mommy and the man u love daddy crazy bitch is right
sweet.lil.mama
by on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:28 PM
Why? Even if they are mixed race they still resemble their Bio parents...

Quoting FooLynRoo:



Quoting sweet.lil.mama:

I hate people like that, like its my fault people in 3rd world countries can't wrap it up. I want my kids to look like me...

I would be SOL if i thought this.

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