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Apparently giving birth is selfish

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So I went to a business dinner with my husband that included a few men from his firm and their wives/so to welcome a new partner.  Since I'd never met the new guys wife before myself and some others were making polite conversation and i asked if she had any children.  She replied they had 2 daughters from China and a son from Russia, she showed us a picture from her purse and told us a bit about them.  I mentioned that they were adorable and that my aunt also had a daughter from China, because she couldn't conceive (i was not insinuating that was her issue at al) She said "ohh no no no. I'm fully fertile.  We just feel with so many homeless, starving children in the world it is just very selfish to have children.  There are too many that need good homes and yet people just keep bringing more children in to a world of limited resources.  Its just awful" At this point every person at the table kind of silenced.  Her husband tried to kin of smooth it over and turned it a little sayig like Oh she means you know more people keep having kids they can't care for its so sad.  She cut him right off and said "no I mean no one in general should be creating children when there are so many out there that need help.It's just so selfish and it's so egotistical how people think they have to mark their territory on the world by planting their seed" AWKWARD! 

Listen I get what she is saying and I think adoption is wonderful..but who the hell says having your own kids is selfish and egotistical? Sorry bitch but we have 2 gorgeous children we made and raise and are working on #3..if that makes me a selfish, egotistical resource waster so be it! lol

Her husband who is technically one of my husband's bosses approached everyone  today who was there and personally apologized and said he had hoped his wifes comments did not offend anyone.  My husband of course said no problem at all...but you can bet they all think this chick is a crazy bitch. 

by on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:07 PM
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by on Feb. 17, 2012 at 4:49 PM

Adoption is expensive and requires people with some big's not for everyone. I personally would love to adopt even an older child because I love kids and I have a lot of love to give. My fiance on the other hand isn't such a big fan of kids. I've mentioned adoption to him in our future and he instantly shot it down. He would not be able to love a kid that was not physically a part of doesn't come easily to him. Ever heard people say "I can't stand any other kids but my own." That's kind of how he is...I've never even see him interact with another kid besides our son. His little cousin used to try interacting with him at family gathering and he just looked SOO awkward and could only say "ok", lol. 

by Bronze Member on Feb. 17, 2012 at 5:06 PM
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I think each couple should do what is best for them.

I myself have two biological kids.My dh and kids are my universe.

I had a hyserectomy a few years ago.

I would love to adopt in the future.There are alot of abandoned kids that need homes.

I just love being a mom anyway I get it:)


by on Feb. 17, 2012 at 5:12 PM
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I kinda agree with her...especially considering how much money is waisted on fertility treatments and IVFs. 

by Crazy Chris on Feb. 17, 2012 at 5:19 PM

Quoting Fields456:

Wow is all I have to say too
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by on Feb. 17, 2012 at 5:23 PM
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 Honestly, I completely agree with her, but I would NEVER throw it out there like that, so judgmentally.

by on Feb. 17, 2012 at 5:28 PM
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Well people can have there own opinion. Lol
by on Feb. 17, 2012 at 5:51 PM


by on Feb. 17, 2012 at 6:10 PM

 sounds to me like she's trying to justify why SHE doesn't want to have kids herself...sad...

by on Feb. 17, 2012 at 6:13 PM
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This.. I normally don't agree with calling ppl bitches but 2thumbs up for that. Lol I have 3 I want another and I want foster kids so she can fuck off lol. Too bad she's not in cm. lol

Quoting strontium:

wow.. I get how she feels but to go that far and throw around selfish... im not really even sure what to say to this post.... just.. wow..

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by on Feb. 17, 2012 at 6:14 PM

Quoting BigMommaJesca:

 Honestly, I completely agree with her, but I would NEVER throw it out there like that, so judgmentally.

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