Do you think my kids are spoiled...............edit
From what I have posted here before would you think they are spoiled? They behave for the most part. They are after all 5,4 and 4. They do have their moments. I know "I" am spoiled, but I was just wondering for those of you who know about my kids because I post stuff about them, just wondering what you thought.
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this is stemming from my friend saying we "spoil" the kids because we got them new bedroom sets. We spent a good chink of money on the boys bed/fort thing. She thinks it was too much and is teaching the kids they can have whatever they want. My thing was, the boys LOVED that bed as soon as they saw it. We could afford it so why not. She does not see it that way when they will only use it for 5 to 6 years.
lol. I personally do not think they are. However other people may think they are. We do kinda buy them what they want. However we will not just run out and get it. If they show interest in something and we can afford it and they ask properly I have no issue buying it. It may be a month later as a reward for something, but that could be seen as spoiled I guess. I guess it really depends on a persons definition of spoiled.
Quoting momma2b2008:
I don't have a clue who you are. But I'm going to guess if you are asking then you really don't know so I'm just going to say yes they are spoiled brats.
If you buy them things as rewards, then I don't see them being spoiled. But do they get disciplined too when they are naughty? Like, take their favourite things out or something?
Oh yes! DD it is her doll house. It goes right into the garage. The boys it is Mario Kart. The last time we took that away was two weeks ago. He has gotten a green happy face at school every day for the past 7 school days, which is a first for him. (the 5 year old)
Quoting 3pippings:If you buy them things as rewards, then I don't see them being spoiled. But do they get disciplined too when they are naughty? Like, take their favourite things out or something?
I don't think being spoiled is contingent on material things, necessarily-- it's more of an attitude. If they are grateful for the things that they have and appreciate them, and don't expect to get something just because they want it, then I doubt they're spoiled. If they think that they deserve something just "because", never have to work for anything, and throw a fit if they're ever told 'no', then yeah, they probably are spoiled.
I cant tell you what youre doing is wrong, but we can afford new bed sets, too and we dont buy them. We can afford a new car, but we dont buy it. We could get the kids Ipads, but we dont. We dont see the need. We all live within reason, with good things and we appreciate them. The money in savings will always do more for my kids than pretty things. We instill that intentionally by leading by example. My son was told he could buy 5 books from book fair, and asked for only 1. Thats all he WANTED. I finally I convinced him books are forever, and so he bought 3. He couldnt justify 5, and no one fought him. Grace and humility are as important as self esteem, to me. Learning to have what you NEED, and not always what you want can take someone a long way.
The kids really needed bedroom sets. It was an important thing they needed. They had beds, but not a complete bedroom set and it was driving me nuts. lol.
In October I took my son to the book fair at his school. (the 5 year old) I told him to pick out a book. All he wanted was a 50 cent pencil sharpener that was in the shape of a car. He is obsessive about sharpening pencils. We do not necessarly buy them every single thing they need, however they are only small once and we do like to let them enjoy their child hood. ( not saying you are opposite) We go on hikes with the kids (have been since they were all walking) we go fishing, we do lots of stuff with them. We just want them to experiance the good stuff. We want them to have a happy childhood, without being/turning into spoiled childrend.
Quoting Mamainthemiddle:I cant tell you what youre doing is wrong, but we can afford new bed sets, too and we dont buy them. We can afford a new car, but we dont buy it. We could get the kids Ipads, but we dont. We dont see the need. We all live within reason, with good things and we appreciate them. The money in savings will always do more for my kids than pretty things. We instill that intentionally by leading by example. My son was told he could buy 5 books from book fair, and asked for only 1. Thats all he WANTED. I finally I convinced him books are forever, and so he bought 3. He couldnt justify 5, and no one fought him. Grace and humility are as important as self esteem, to me. Learning to have what you NEED, and not always what you want can take someone a long way.
I think that is wonderful you do that! many parents do not do things with their children anymore. We are not rich by any means. But we do try the best we can.
Quoting sterling21:
I kinda spoil my son simply because he has no siblings, we have very little income and are pretty strapped for cash, so when he asks to go the park we take him, swimming we take him, anything that's free we go out of are way to give it to him. His favorite store is the dollar store, he gets upset if we pass it and don't go in, in that store he can pick out whatever he likes, I know as he gets older things will be more exspensive and his activities will get more exspensive, but from the things you listed, it seems age appropriate, and if you have money, it would be selfish to keep it to yourself and not share the wealth with your kids. You give your kids a 100% of what you can, just because your 100% and my 100% are in different tax brackets does not make your kids brats. Spoil them while you still can ;)
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on Feb. 23, 2012 at 4:24 AM