Im sad. My exfil, we may not have always gotten along or agreed on things. But he was always there for me. He was the only one to ever care about kid or I.
Exdh said something about him (exfil) being tested for cancer last year but then we quit talking. So i never found out if he had it or not.
Well time to time i will go browse my exsils FB's to see how they are doing. Well i just saw on one of their pages that exfil does have cancer and started chemo yesturday.
It breaks my heart. He will be 70 this year and kid hasnt seen him in 14 1/2 months. I have no contact with exes family.
Im sad my son will never know his grandpa and his grandpa may never see him again.
I feel so crushed and sad for kid. I hate that kids dad wants nothing to do with him so in turn none of exes family does either. If they did why arent they reaching out to me to have a relationship with kid.
Pointless post.
*edit* I did try reaching out last year. Mainly to mil things didnt go so well. I was told it was best to just stay out of their lives. Its best that they arent in kids life. Sadly their infuence wouldnt be good for kid. So i quit trying to reach out and just let things stay the way they are. Trust me i would do anything for kid to be in his papas life, but its not possable. Ex said that if i kept trying to reach out all hell would break loose. He would fight to get kid from me and for visitation. But its just best he doesnt have part in kids life. Once kid is old enough if he wants to reach out I will let him. That will be HIS choice. Some may not understand my reason and I do not expect everyone to or to agree with my reasons. But i have to do what I feel is best for kid.
Maybe reach out to exfil instead?
I reached out to ex sil (never married, just easier to say) through facebook. Short and sweet... I know **** and I aren't together anymore but I'd still like ***** to know that side of his family if you want to (insert whatever)
It was hard to build a relationship at first but now we see each other every couple of months and the kids love each other.
Remember there are two sides to every story and you don't know what ex has told them. Also maybe they are just afraid to reach out to you because you might reject them.
It would probably mean a lot to exfil and exmil to have you at least call.
they may not be reching out to you for fear of being rejected becuse of what an ass their son is....message them, do it for your son...we did for my ss's grandpa...it wasnt his fault his daughter is such a fuck up...he cried when we let J skype him on Christmas...do it before it is too late, just limit it to phone calls or maybe skype
Quoting Jemmy:Maybe reach out to exfil instead?
I reached out to ex sil (never married, just easier to say) through facebook. Short and sweet... I know **** and I aren't together anymore but I'd still like ***** to know that side of his family if you want to (insert whatever)
It was hard to build a relationship at first but now we see each other every couple of months and the kids love each other.
Quoting beaugrl0824:
That's hard, why don't you reach out to them.
Remember there are two sides to every story and you don't know what ex has told them. Also maybe they are just afraid to reach out to you because you might reject them.
It would probably mean a lot to exfil and exmil to have you at least call.
Fuck your ex. You're 23 years old, you're a grown adult and can do any damn thing you want to do. What the fuck is your ex going to do about it?
Quoting mstkn.identity:
He'll tell ex and then all hell would break loose. Saddly im not allowed to reach out to them.
Quoting Jemmy:Maybe reach out to exfil instead?
I reached out to ex sil (never married, just easier to say) through facebook. Short and sweet... I know **** and I aren't together anymore but I'd still like ***** to know that side of his family if you want to (insert whatever)
It was hard to build a relationship at first but now we see each other every couple of months and the kids love each other.
Quoting shivasgirl:they may not be reching out to you for fear of being rejected becuse of what an ass their son is....message them, do it for your son...we did for my ss's grandpa...it wasnt his fault his daughter is such a fuck up...he cried when we let J skype him on Christmas...do it before it is too late, just limit it to phone calls or maybe skype
Quoting mstkn.identity:
I cant. For kids sake and because i was told by ex not to or all hell would break loose. Thats why i secretely lurk their fb's.
Quoting beaugrl0824:
That's hard, why don't you reach out to them.
Remember there are two sides to every story and you don't know what ex has told them. Also maybe they are just afraid to reach out to you because you might reject them.
It would probably mean a lot to exfil and exmil to have you at least call.
What is your greatest accomplishment? UPDATE
- mstkn.identity
on Feb. 23, 2012 at 4:55 AM