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When step parents say

Posted by on Apr. 4, 2012 at 3:01 PM
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Question: Mostly I think ______________

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No they don't feel exactly the same

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Do you believe step parents when they say that they feel exactly the same about their step kids compared to their biological children?

“you know you’ve created God in your own image when God hates all the same people that you do”

by on Apr. 4, 2012 at 3:01 PM
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Rain2Rinse
by on Apr. 4, 2012 at 3:03 PM
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It is hard for me to believe. Maybe that is because I know that I would not feel that way. I wouldn't feel anything close to that. But, adoptive parents love those babies like they would a child they gave birth to... so maybe it is possible?
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Tatum2U
by Platinum Member on Apr. 4, 2012 at 3:04 PM

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i_lovedyoufirst
by Gold Member on Apr. 4, 2012 at 3:04 PM
I'm sorry. I'll be honest, a parent can say they love their child as if they were their own but we all know if it comes down to it,we would pick our actual child before the step child.
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graciesmom6206
by on Apr. 4, 2012 at 3:06 PM
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I have to agree with this. I personally won't date a guy with a kid because I know in my heart I will never love that child as much as my own and I will always take my daughters side and choose her.


Quoting i_lovedyoufirst:

I'm sorry. I'll be honest, a parent can say they love their child as if they were their own but we all know if it comes down to it,we would pick our actual child before the step child.

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lifehappy
by on Apr. 4, 2012 at 3:06 PM
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Not from my own experience!

Lillymygirl
by on Apr. 4, 2012 at 3:07 PM
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I have been a step mom and although i loved my step children very much and still am very close to them , it's not the same .

Maybe if I had raised them from infants and the biological mother was completely out of the picture , I don't know. 

kansasmom1978
by on Apr. 4, 2012 at 3:07 PM

I am a stepmom.  I love my stepson, but the love is different from my ds and dd. I don't know why. It just is.

Erna2
by Platinum Member on Apr. 4, 2012 at 3:08 PM
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 I believe my dh does. He has raised my oldest 3 since they were 12 yrs, 8 years and 3 years. (They are now 23, 19 and 15 years) We had our own two dds 8 and 6 yrs ago. Whenever he talks about the kids to anyone, and they ask, he ALWAYS says that he has 4 daughters and a son. He has never told anyone that he is a step father. Only that he is a father of 5 kids.

incogneat-o
by on Apr. 4, 2012 at 3:09 PM
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I believe it is possible to love them the same, but I believe the bonds with your step kids and that with your own are very different.
melissa632
by on Apr. 4, 2012 at 3:10 PM
Mostly, no. I think they WANT to, but it really isn't the same. I'm a step parent.
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