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What would you ask?

Posted by on Apr. 11, 2012 at 2:18 PM
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I'm writing a book about my surrogacy/adoption story. I was told by a friend that a book should "answer questions". What types of questions would you ask someone like me?

For those that don't know, a short few sentences about my story...

I was a surrogate, but the IF (intended father/bio father) changed his mind because the baby I was carrying was a girl. I was going to keep her. He stepped in and legally prevented me from doing that, so basically we fought until we agreed that she would be adopted out. I chose an adoptive mother for her, and that was that. I still ache for her daily but I know it was meant to be. Doesn't make it any easier but I'd like to write about it to help others realize that A)surrogacy isn't always so great and B)things happen for a reason.

So.. fire away?

by on Apr. 11, 2012 at 2:18 PM
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amomynous_j
by on Apr. 11, 2012 at 2:22 PM

gosh, i remember all that. =(

i would want to read about your thought process and the feelings you had while going thru the entire process.

any conflicting emotions you had...etc. 


ballerina18
by Platinum Member on Apr. 11, 2012 at 2:27 PM
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I would want to know details about the entire process. Kind of a... this is what might happen if you choose to become a surrogate.

good luck with your book

i_lovedyoufirst
by Gold Member on Apr. 11, 2012 at 2:29 PM
Why made you decide to do something so life changing?
How were you able to cope with the fact that your allowing a tiny bean that grew inside you go to someone else?
What kind of people did you want to surrogate for?
If you could do it over again would you?
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whitleypittman
by on Apr. 11, 2012 at 2:32 PM

 Why did he change his mind just because of the gender?

randomosityblog
by on Apr. 11, 2012 at 2:53 PM


Quoting whitleypittman:

 Why did he change his mind just because of the gender?

Because he was an asshole?

lol Just kidding. There's a reason. :) 

randomosityblog
by on Apr. 11, 2012 at 2:53 PM


Quoting i_lovedyoufirst:

Why made you decide to do something so life changing?
How were you able to cope with the fact that your allowing a tiny bean that grew inside you go to someone else?
What kind of people did you want to surrogate for?
If you could do it over again would you?

That last one is hard. :(

randomosityblog
by on Apr. 11, 2012 at 2:54 PM


Quoting amomynous_j:

gosh, i remember all that. =(

i would want to read about your thought process and the feelings you had while going thru the entire process.

any conflicting emotions you had...etc. 


It is going to be hard to write. I'm still looking for a ghostwriter but so far no luck.

1stpreggers
by on Apr. 11, 2012 at 2:55 PM
When u agreed did he tell u only a male child?
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MommeeTo4
by Livin w NF1 on Apr. 11, 2012 at 2:55 PM
If you could have kept her , would you?
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randomosityblog
by on Apr. 11, 2012 at 2:58 PM


Quoting MommeeTo4:

If you could have kept her , would you?

Without a doubt.

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