murdersuicide*edited*

[allisonc75]

my last nerve has been shot. me and my s/o have guardianship over his three yr old nephew. his mom is in rehab and dad is in jail. we have had him for about a month and during the day im left alone with him while s/o is at work. he is a complete savage. and i do mean savage. his parents have taught him nothing. im trying my best to help this kid and get him somewhat domesticated before the baby gets here(im 36 weeks pregnant).ive started trying to potty train but it is so hard. i have two daughters they are 6 and 7 and are very well mannered and calm. this kid is breaking me! he just took off his underpants....walked in my room....pissed all over my bed....pissed all over my dog and all over my floor as im watching him and telling him to go get on the potty. he doesnt listen. at all. time out doesnt work. he shits in the middle of the floor. he grabs milk, Coffee creamer and any other liquids out of the refrigerator and just dumps them out on the floor. he hides the butter and whatever else he can get his hands on. i really dont know what to do. im scared to have my newborn in the same household as this beast. someone please give me some advice if you have any. please. Edit****** to all of you that have taken my post out of context: the title and me referring to him as a beast and savage were words used out of frustration. words! nothing else except words used on a website...not to the childs face. to all of you that have given me advice or made a response that wasn't calling me a psycho or bitch thank you. everyone has emotions that sometimes run high and i think we can all agree that venting is a healthy outlet for that. which is exactly what i did.

[jennbitt]

Spank his butt?

[mommyoftwo103]

That poor child needs to be held and loved... hold him, rock him, read him a story, give him attention.. and stop calling him a beast. 

[mommyoftwo103]

Did you say domesticated??? 

Domestication (from Latin domesticus) is the process whereby a population of animals or plants, through a process of selection, is changed at the genetic level, accentuating traits that benefit humans. It differs from taming in that a change in the phenotypical expression and genotype of the animal occurs, whereas taming is simply the process by which animals become accustomed to human presence. 

I feel sorry for that kid.. you are not good for him.

[Ollie123]

Quoting mommyoftwo103:

Did you say domesticated??? 

Domestication (from Latin domesticus) is the process whereby a population of animals or plants, through a process of selection, is changed at the genetic level, accentuating traits that benefit humans. It differs from taming in that a change in the phenotypical expression and genotype of the animal occurs, whereas taming is simply the process by which animals become accustomed to human presence. 

I feel sorry for that kid.. you are not good for him.

Pull your head out! The kid is acting like a animal. She is venting. He do you know that she doesn't try to read or hold him? Did you ask ?

[SevysMomma]

YEAH! That'll teach him!! Come here little boy, I know you're SUPER YOUNG and half the time you probably don't even know better. You've already grown up with two dead beat piece of shit parents who probably beat you enough, but I am going to beat your ass too or spank you until you understand that is all life is about!!

DISGUSTING!

Quoting MamatoKy:

Beat. His. Lil. Ass!!!!!

Well not bad. But spank him.

[MamatoKy]

My dd's perfectly fine :) only had to Ehh twice in her life :)

Quoting SevysMomma:

YEAH! That'll teach him!! Come here little boy, I know you're SUPER YOUNG and half the time you probably don't even know better. You've already grown up with two dead beat piece of shit parents who probably beat you enough, but I am going to beat your ass too or spank you until you understand that is all life is about!!

DISGUSTING!

Quoting MamatoKy:

Beat. His. Lil. Ass!!!!!



Well not bad. But spank him.

[Ollie123]

Wow I think some Cafe Mommas are PMSing! Holy crap!

[SevysMomma]

Dear Lord - give this child to someone who can better care for him, or better yet, give the responsibility back to your BOYFRIEND. It shouldn't be YOUR responsibility to begin with! Stop butting in if you just plan on making the situation worse!

I am against spanking however people do what they need to, and spanking a child because HE UPSETS YOU is a horrible reason. You shouldn't WANT to spank him. If he NEEDS to be spanked, that is completely different. Wanting to hurt a child and utilizing it to discipline are two different things. Get your head checked.

i really want to spank him bc he upsets me so badly 

[SevysMomma]

I'm not speaking towards you, but that is horrible advice. That child is clearly in need of love and attention and doesn't need to be BEAT the moment he walks into their lives. It's sad she would even think about that. 

Quoting MamatoKy:

My dd's perfectly fine :) only had to Ehh twice in her life :)

Quoting SevysMomma:

YEAH! That'll teach him!! Come here little boy, I know you're SUPER YOUNG and half the time you probably don't even know better. You've already grown up with two dead beat piece of shit parents who probably beat you enough, but I am going to beat your ass too or spank you until you understand that is all life is about!!

DISGUSTING!

Quoting MamatoKy:

Beat. His. Lil. Ass!!!!!



Well not bad. But spank him.

[HouseMa]

By not doing anything to fix this you are allowing it to happen.

Put a door lock on the fridge...problem solved.

Don't sit there and let him pee or poop on your stuff, get off your ass, go over to him, take him by the hand and put him on the potty.

He's probably confused, sccared and is acting like this because he doesn't want to get close to you in case you go away like his parents did.

Get over yourself and focus on that poor kid...he's got more problems then you can possibly imagine.  He needs someone to love him, guide him and tell him everythingis going to be okay.  Not someone who thinks that an appropriate title to complain about him should be murdersuicide.